Depressed don;t know what to do...?

Question

Every month for the past 3 months or so I get very depressed for one week or so just angry and emotional. Not just normal PMS like it used to but I just erupt at the drop of a pin. I have too many people that live at my house so I don't get the space I need to my self sometimes but I can't change that for about 4 months. I was so emotional the other night trying to start a friends car, I was by my self in the dark and I couldn't get the right key to fit. I got so unbelievably angry punched the steering wheel and couldn't stop crying. This is way too much for me to handle. I feel trapped like I can get rid of this feeling the gloom. I don't have insurance so I need help on how to make this week out of every month livable instead of misery. I will argue with someone about nothing and then just cry and need to seperate my self from everyone and this is not like me I am a very social person.

Answer 1

As we approach the stressors in our life with optimism, we effectively deal with stress, anger, anxiety, depression, worry, etc. successfully. I take 15 min. early in the morning, and 15 min. in the evening to practice a simple meditation called the mindfulness of breathing. [I also practice Analytical meditation for 15 min. a day; spoken of later].
Mindfulness of Breathing exercises:
1) Be in a comfortable position, whether sitting
or lying down.
2) Have someone watch your other children for
about 15 min. [Increase in time gradually, after practicing for a month].
Then close your eyes, and concentrate
totally on your breathing.
3) At the end of your first inhalation of oxygen,
count one. Keep doing this until you get to Ten. Then start back at one. Remain patient with yourself.
4) Then focus your attention on breathing only
through your nostrils, which filter out all
the things, which are not healthy to breath
into your lungs. Be aware of the various
sensations through your nostrils, while you
continue the counting. When you get to
ten, start again at one.
5) When a distracting thoughts enters your mind
allow them to pass through {your mind], or judging them, or trying to fix them.
And then gently, patiently bring your full
attention back to your breath. Every time,
a distracting thought {any thought which
would take your attention of your breath),
comes to your mind, you need to use this
skillful, disciplinary method of bring it back.
Thoughts do come into our minds, especially
worrisome , or pressing thoughts
which indicate to us that we have an anxious mind.
Just be patient w/yourself, and keep practicing.
**"There is proven evidence of the
Success of The Mindfulness of Breathing
Exercises Proven by Dr. Jon Kabat-ZinnPhD
Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD. has a book
out called, "Coming to Our Senses' which
teaches this. *There is also a book called, " The
Beginner's Guide to Insight Meditation"
by: Arinna Weisman & Jean Smith which is most
Excellent also.*” The Mindfulness of Breathing
greatly help us to clearly see things as they really are, in order to act and react in a healthy manner toward people, and situations in life.
I practice mindfulness of breathing to reduce stress and anger, and to cultivate Patience. I really enjoy the practice of mindfulness of breathing exercises. In Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn's clinic in Mass. he teaches the mindfulness of breathing to his patients to help them reduce pain, stress, anxiety, anger, depression, and worry. Many people establish the practice of mindfulness, as a way of life for themselves. For some, who are very Analytical, and might have a difficult time calming down their mind, "analytical meditation" is probably geared more for them. This method of meditation is excellent for effectively dealing with pain, stress, & anger. Training in Patience: The meditation of observing our stress and anger involves paying close attention to the storyline behind stress and anger. We note the blood rushing to our head, our heart pounding, the emotional pain of hurt feelings, disappointment, & unfulfilled expectations. Simply observing these, “but Not reacting to them by clinging to them or pushing them away, we experience them as they are in the present. In doing so, we watch them arise And Cease in their own accord.” Mindfulness is very effective in letting go of Negative emotions. “Techniques in which we re-frame the situation constitute most of this volume, and they fall in the category of 'Analytical meditation, in which we investigate our thoughts, feeling, and perceptions to discern if they are accurate and beneficial. Changing the way we describe and interpret situations subdue stress, pain, anger because we stop exaggerating and projecting negativities onto people, situations, and objects.' In this way, the external event, its meaning, & our position in it appear to us differently, and our stress and anger evaporates.” Meditation on love and compassion{loving-kindness meditation], (which many do as form of walking meditation) strengthens these positive thoughts and emotions in our minds and hearts, which are beneficial because these thoughts and emotions act not only as antidotes to stress and anger, but also as measures preventing them from arising. So for some, mindfully observing their Thoughts and emotions allow stress and anger to subdue naturally, while for others, a more Analytical approach is necessary. Through investigation{introspection), we see clearly that stress and anger are states of mind that misapprehends their object {either the person or the situation). But remember, subduing stress & anger, to cultivate Patience properly is a slow and steady process. Don’t expect them to always disappear overnight. Reacting stressfully and in anger are deeply ingrained habits, & like all habits, it takes time to unlearn. Practice Meditating daily. (Think about this, who really gives us the best opportunity to demonstrate patience, compassion, and tolerance? Not our friends, because they are nice to us. It is our enemies. Through having an optimistic attitude, we can clearly see that it is our enemies which help us that infinitely beneficial, wholesome quality of Patience. It is those who harm and offend us that actually give us excellent opportunities to cultivate Patience). “Meditation greatly helps us deal effectively with stress, and anger – to cultivate Patience and tolerance, resulting in Peace of Mind.
This “Patience” is the ability to remain internally calm, and undisturbed in the face of harm or difficulties. Through the situations in life which we are faced with, patience and wisdom are cultivated and stress-energy w/in us, and the anger-energy within us are slowly dissolved, resulting in peace of mind.

Answer 2

This happens when people get over whelmed. Too many things happening to you at once. This is called life. And the only difference between you and someone else, you realize that this is not the way you want to be. So now that you have the first thing down, coming to terms, change your behavior. Perhaps the people that you used to be so socialable around and really not the type of people that you want to hang around with any more. You do not have to call growing up Depession. From cradle to the grave we are supposed to be changing for the better.

Answer 3

First, let me tell you that I've suffered from depression for most of my life, so I can certainly sympathize.

Check out the Department of Social Services in your town or county- they often can provide counseling inexpensively or on a sliding scale.

Make use of a trusted family member, friend, or pastor, if this is not possible.

If you can afford just a doctor's visit, tell him everything you're feeling. He may be able to prescribe an anti-depressant. If you can't afford the medication, there is an organization called The Partnership for Prescription Assistance, 1-800-4PPA-NOW that may be able to help.

But most of all, don't give up. There is help out there. You're worth it! Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. The same thing use to happen to me .If you're a Christian i would suggest praying about it or seeing a pastor or someone you trust.You may not think that praying help but it could. If you a not a christian i would suggest looking into becoming one .Jesus will get rid of that gloom .It's worked for me before. if you have questions e- mail me .i hope that all works out.Also writing about your feelings might help you .If I'm feeling upset and don't want to talk about it i write down my feelings

Answer 5

i think you need to to start a jounral and start righting your feelings it will help you out. can you get rid off somone of the people that live with you?how about going to the doctors and geting on somone medince?how about talking to a counsler?i have some advice for you u can email me at [e-mail] maybe i can help you.i have had those days and they are not easy but with help you will be okay i know u will

Answer 6

OMG!!!! i am just like you, and i bet it would help both of us if we talk....so email me
[e-mail]
plz, i really need someone to talk to, and i think you do too:)