My friend recently broke it off a few months ago with a girl (also a friend of mine) he was dating on & off for 3 yrs. He really liked her, thought she was beautiful & funny, enjoyed spending time with her. He couldn't really explain why he broke it off except that he couldn't see himself with her forever but didn't know why. He thinks he's jaded & doesn't know if he can ever be happy w/ relationships. He stopped seeing her, but they have since remained friends. When I asked him about this, he said he does not have one bad thing to say about her & enjoys talking to her. However, last month he agreed to be set up on a blind date with a single mother, & is now dating this person. My friend is obviously hurt, & I'm confused. If the ONLY problem was really that he couldn't commit to his previous girlfriend, why has he taken up with another woman right away, & one with such a responsibility? & how long/successful can this new relationship last if he does have relationship issues?
2007-02-21 08:56:09 · 7 answers · asked by Toni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me that he is just drifting in life looking for a reason. One day he may grow up and make that commitment. Until he is really looking for a commitment he should stay away from single mothers. There is no reason to play relationship roulette when the kid or kids may become affected by his lack of commitment. I would say that he didn't truly love your friend and that he was just comfortable hanging out with her until something better came along. Spineless approach but one used very often in life.
2007-02-21 09:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by The Don 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend really has a commitment problem and not much of a relationship issue. he would just be moving around from one relationship to the next for some time. his previous girlfriend should start moving on and not add more years to the 3 years she has wasted on such a guy.
2007-02-21 17:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone really cares for someone and they really get along, doesn't mean that its a life-time relationship. Some people are better off as friends and there isn't chemistry happening.
Your male friend is exploring new possibilities with other girls. There is no gaurantee that this will last or not last based on his last relationship. It also doens't mean he has relationship issues just because it didn't work out with your friend. Your female frined is, of course, going to feel hurt. Ending a relationship always hurts no matter how good of friends they are, just be there to support her. She'll find someone new as well.
Do your best to support both of your friends and let them try to find who makes them happy. Everyone goes out with alot of different people to find their mate, they are no different, let them have their fun.
2007-02-21 17:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by zkiwi2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there was a personality conflict. Women with kids shouldnt be thought of as problematic or trouble. WE are experienced, WE have degrees and careers and can take care of ourselves and have LOTs to offer single men. I'm sure you didnt mean it in an offensive way but to think your male friend is better off with your female friend JUST because the new woman has a kid...is wrong. I wish your female and male friend well.
2007-02-21 17:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that he didn't fall in love with the first girl. If he didn't I wouldn't expect him to live his life with someone he didn't love. Dating again makes perfect sense.
2007-02-21 16:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't really like your friend enough to marry her and he knew it.
2007-02-21 17:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WAST TIME ON THIS ONE...Do it moving...
2007-02-21 17:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋