I have been the perfect, loving b/f as far as I can think of. But still the women I love just lost the feelings for me and eventhough we are close friends but she said she doesnt feel anything for me anymore. But then again I she claims and acts as if I am the only person she can talk to without holding back anythign inside. Please tell me why she felt that she doesnt love me anymore.
2007-02-21 08:47:11 · 23 answers · asked by jellymarrow13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm... i dont know what to tell you sorry but if you need to talk im here for you
2007-02-21 08:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Aura 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Girls can be really stupid, me and my friends included. My brother is one of the nicest guys in the world and so even though I see what he goes through I still do it to guys.
Possibly your problem could be that you treat your girlfriends so well that you forget about yourself. It's hard when you put so much time into telling someone else how great they are. Compliments are great but just remember that people want to know that the people around them are wonderful too. So next time you get the chance without sounding ful of yourself, just talk yoursself up a little. Good luck, I hope everything goes alright for you. Just remember that when things don't work out there will be something better and you will be happy again.
2007-02-21 09:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by kgconcerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. I can totally relate to this. It's like reading about myself, and I'm half convinced you're my partner speaking at the moment!
I feel bad for you because I can imagine how empty it is when the love you give is not returned. The good news is love needs love to grow and if you don't get anything back from her emotionally, as much as you love her, you will not be able to sustain an empty relationship forever. You will get over this and move on, and yes you should try to do it as soon as you can. Don't let her hold onto you if it's not oing to happen. She's leading you on (I know that's sort of what I was doing... for security, since I could tell him anything).
As for her... just know it is not something you can do. My boyfriend did nothing wrong. He was good to me then and he is even better now. sometimes people grow apart and love can fade. There is a natural cycle to these things and you just have to hope you are both equally willing to work on it. I just grew apart. I still love him, but I am not in love with him. Things that used to be funny seems childish, activities that used to be fun are now boring. It's something insode me that has changed an I o not know how you can cahnge it as it is something that has happened in her heart and mind.
As much as it pains me to say it, move on and find the love you deserve.
2007-02-21 08:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Beetle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been a doormat, and she is still wiping her feet on you. She is happy to use you for aspects that suits her, but then selfishly neglects aspects of your former relationship that you value. You need to remove your friendship. You need to cut off all the things she still gets from you, while getting nothing in return from her.
You will then be the "bad boy" some people talk of, and she may come back to you, or she may just walk away, it's a gamble, but if you play your hand, you keep your dignity.
2007-02-21 09:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she does love you but not in the way you "think" you love her. you actually sound like you're infatuated honey. no offense - but i can imagine you speaking this to me and it doesn't sound attractive at all. she sees you as a friend - you guy were close friends before right? perhaps she just wanted to test the waters with you because you are such a good guy but then she realized she loves you more as a friend? ask her! maybe what she's saying is what you need to be hearing - she just doesn't feel you anymore - move on man ... it hurts i know ... but you'll be okay ... plenty other ladies out there would love to be treated as well as you sound like you treated her. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 08:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls/women just lack the maturity and character to fully appreciate a good thing when they have it. You sound like a wonderful guy, and she sounds like a fool. Please don't beat yourself up over her. Most girls/women would love to have a boyfriend like you. The fact that the girls in your experiences have not appreciated you just says that perhaps you are choosing the wrong girls. Are you choosing them for their looks primarily, and THEN their personalities? If so, you might want to get to know a girl for her character first and go from there. Any mature, decent girl will appreciate a guy like you. You sound like a keeper, and your girlfriend was a fool.
2007-02-21 08:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound like a jerk, but you sound too emotional. Girls like guys that are in control, and not someone that is too sensitive and only talks about feelings all the time. Don't be a girl, be a man. Have fun with girls, tease them in a joking way, and only talk about emotions every once in a while. But most importantly, BE IN CONTROL! This doesn't mean doing brute, mean things like yelling and hitting, but do things on your terms and she will appreciate it much more than if you act like a wimp. Girls want guys in control, they want to be lead, not to do the leading.
2007-02-21 08:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by rockran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things just run their course. It's sad, you're still lovely, but she's changed, she looking for pastures new. At least she's being honest with you. She wants to keep you close though, in case you're a useful shoulder. Don't let her! Find yourself a new girl, someone who will appreciate you - living well is the best revenge!
2007-02-21 08:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh I'm sorry she broke your heart...........
See some girls just fall in and out of love like it's nothing and some stick by their man forever............ Me now I've been in three relationships where I thought I was in love and I thought I deserved to be treated the way I was being treated..... I thought love had to hurt in order for it to work and then i hadn't dated for 6 years and then one day at walmart the man of my dreams walked into my life and we've been married for going on 7 months now and I've never been happier..............
what i'm getting at is give it time all wounds heal with time and one day the woman of your dreams will walk into your life and you won't know what to do because you'll be so consumed with happieness!!!
hope i helped
still dreaming in idaho
stacy
if you need someone to talk to
my email is
Stacysrocker@yahoo.com
2007-02-21 08:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy ` B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your picking the wrong girls, she feels about u like a friend a confidant, but not a lover. u know all of her secrets, everything about her, and she is too comfortable in the relationship. you need to really get to know a person before committing, and giving your heart to them. u fall in love way too easily, give way too much, way too soon, and u end up being hurt. they use u to comfort them, give them advice, be their friend, but they seem to be seeking someone else for love. maybe show more of the masculine side of yourself to them.
2007-02-21 08:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in answer to your title question....it also goes vice-versa.
maybe she became too comfortable with you that she feels like you are her bestfriend now. or probably you are always there you dont give her time to miss you at all. try changing your routine. spice up your dates & surprise her. and also, maybe she does not like perfection cuz sometimes perfection is dull and boring. reinvent yourself and have fun making mistakes and laugh it out with her !
2007-02-21 08:58:02 · answer #11 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋