I like this guy and we've been an unofficial thing since somtime early december. We really like each other and he tells me this often. I found out a few weeks ago he and his (crazy) ex girlfriend got into an argument and sleep together. I was very upset that he kinda "cheated" on me, and after much thinking and talking, i forgave him, saying this could never happen again. Last friday I found out they kissed the previous weekend. Once again, i was upset and after much talking and thinking, I forgave him. But I am having serious second thoughts. AM I making the right choice by staying with him?? HELP ME!
2007-02-21 08:45:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
**by the way, we are in high school, if that is of any help. And there's a two year age difference, he is older.
2007-02-21 09:22:53 · update #1
Without hearing both sides of the story it sounds like the guy you are dating doesn't know what or who he wants in his life. If you feel very strongly about him you will be willing to endure certain things for him. You should give him the opportunity to find out for himself what (or who) he wants. He may never return so be ready for that. It would mean he wasn't really in love with you in the first place. It would be easier to accept that sooner than later. If he comes back to you and says he was a fool for leaving you he has grown up to your level. That's when you are on the right track.
2007-02-21 08:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by normansbro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I feel this guy has some serious issues to be worked on and if you mention that his (crazy) ex is very much in the picture, move forward, you don't need to hold onto someone who can't make up their mind. I know I may be sounding harsh, but, there is someone better out there for you -
Peace
2007-02-21 16:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by Porshe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur not! rite now ur playin urself. I was in the same situation, and u really can't get mad @ him because the truth is ur not his woman, he can sleep w/ 10 different girls & u can't b mad. U need 2 tell him "yes I like u, but I won't play some1's fool, either ur w/ me or just me, or u w/ out me" he's either going say yeah or nah, but regardless u need 2 b smarter then wat u being rite now. The fact that it's only Febuary and u 2 only been talking since early December, it should b easy 4 u 2 move on.
2007-02-21 16:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound hard but you need to get out. The sooner the better. It 's just putting stress on you not him. As long as he can get away with it. He'll do it. I've been down the road. I know it's gonna hurt. But the pain will heal and you will find another man that will treat you the way you need to be treated. Please don't let yourself be second. Just be a strong woman and think about what you need.
2007-02-21 16:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if yall are "unofficial" then that means that yall aren't really together. I see you like him and everything but it doesn't sound like he is really serious about being with you if he is still messing around with his ex. You shouldn't want to be with somebody who says they want to be with you but turns around and still messes with his ex. Then you should also ask yourself is his ex really his ex. I dont know too many people who even still talk to their ex because they think of it as "we broke up for a reason" and thats how I think of it too. If you really got serious with him you would really have to talk to him and tell him that he needs to figure out what kind of relationship he has with his ex. I dont think you should be with him if he still has feelings for her and sleeps with her, that will only bring him to cheat on you and I dont think you want that. Just think about that.
2007-02-21 16:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by KB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only Now having second thoughts? Are you serious about staying with him? How many chances are you going to give this s*lut of a guy. Have some self respect and dump his A*SS.
2007-02-21 17:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that it is unofficial. If it bothers you that much then you must have quite strong feeling for him. Ask him to make it official but any messing around then say goodbye to him. Why is he still bothering with his ex ? Its a hard one.
2007-02-21 16:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Daniella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not he obviously wants both of you, and he cant have you both. He is just doing what he wants and then telling you he's sorry and doing those same mistakes over. I think deep down you know you need to stop the relationship. Agree to be friends. I know it is hard
2007-02-21 16:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sexylova49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself... do you like being one of two women he kisses and sleeps with? if Yes, then stay with him, if no, then leave him. Simple enough. He has proven that he has no regard for your feelings by kissing her after the first go-round.
2007-02-21 16:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is totally using u and doesnt know what he wants and u r forgiving him way to easily. if u really really like him then stay with him, but u need to be a more aggressive and stick up for yourself. make sure he knows where u stand. if something like that ever happens again it needs to be DONE! just follow your gut.
2007-02-21 18:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋