I asked my bf if we could try having sex a little slower because I still bleed(we have only had sex about 5 times) and he said "well then it would please you only." and it does not please me at all because it still hurts. How do I get him to slow down?
2007-02-21 08:44:59 · 15 answers · asked by The Worrywart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop having sex with him.... he can either go slow or he can have none at all. Problem solved.
2007-02-21 08:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not being considerate of your body, you need to STOP having sex. Sex is not supposed to be a selfish act - it is supposed to be pleasing to both people. He needs to be more concerned with your well-being, and if he cannot stop being selfish long enough for you to get used to sharing your body with him, he does not deserve to have sex with you. Stand up for yourself - he may be doing damage to you. I would also recommend going to the doctor to find out why you are still bleeding. Bleeding after your first time should not be an issue. It could be that he's not spending enough time "waking you up" (if you know what I mean) and that may cause slight tearing which could lead to an infection.
At any rate, do not allow him to sleep with you until you have straightened this problem out, either with help from your doctor, or until he promises to be a man and forget about himself for awhile to focus on you.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 08:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off!!!!! It is that easy. If he can't show any consideration for the fact that you are experiencing pain during intercourse....the he gets none!!
The next and most important thing that you need to do.....make an appointment with an OB/GYN...you really should not be having bleeding on a regular basis. Is this something that you can talk to your mom about?? If it is then you should turn to her....if not then seek the help of a medical professional. You really should not be bleeding or pain during intercourse....that means that something might be wrong and your body is warning you about it.
Always listen to your body.
2007-02-21 08:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, definitely go see a doctor. Second, He's a guy! Im a guy and I know that when it comes to sex the girl has all the power. Tell him to respect your wishes or you won't be having sex with him. If he continues to show you know respect on this matter, then I would re-evaluate even wanting to be with him entirely, much less having sex with him.
2007-02-21 08:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by kingIII 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like he is mature enough to be having sex if he is worried about it only pleasing you...
If it is uncomfortable for you, try maybe using a little lube.
Don't do anything that hurts, and don't let him pressure you into it.
2007-02-21 08:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by OffLiCute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesn't understand your feelings about the situation then he isn't in this relationship with you b/c he loves you, it's b/c he wants action. If it hurts you then a man who really loved you would change something so it didn't. Don't stay with this guy if he's only in it for the sex for his only enjoyment! Believe me, you will later regret it.
2007-02-21 08:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he doesn't care about you at all. If he really did he would realise that it was hurting you and would respect your wishes. He is not the type of person you want to be with.
But if you want to stay with him you're going to have to give him an ultimatum, if you don't slow down we don't do it at all.
2007-02-21 08:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might want to see a doctor if it is still hurting you when you have sex.
2007-02-21 08:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sparkling♥Jules♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with him because if he doesnt care that it hurts you then it is not worth being with him.
2007-02-21 08:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this guy loved you he would instantly listen and take it slower... its about love, not sex. if he is mistreating you like this maybe you should rethink the relationship
2007-02-21 08:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Aura 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋