Is she cheating or what?

Question

I've had suspicions for a while about my girl cheating.. after confronting her many times, she isn't going to admit it.. she swore up and down that she didn't, but not on her kid's life.. i know it's wrong to swear on your kids life but she normally does it, this time she tells me she isn't because thats wrong.. She was hiding emails, calls, and messages from me to get help from this guy to get on a police department. She tells me her friend cheated on her b/f as well, and that her friend isn't going to tell him because she loves him and it was a mistake and she loves him. Is this a sign too?

Anyway, the first question, do you think she's cheating?

Second, I think she's fixing to tell her best friend through email and Im going to catch it. Once I have proof, what do I do next?

I know how much trust is in a relationship and I do trust her, up to now. The fact she's hiding things and acting weird, well how can you trust that?

Answer 1

It is very possible that she is cheating on you... but it could be that you are cheating on her and looking for a reason.... if that's not true and you are an innocent person getting played... move on and find someone that will treat you right... try to let her know that she needs to grow up...

Answer 2

It all sounds pretty circumstantial. Based on this I would not assume she is cheating, and if I were you I would not confront her, especially when you have kids to consider.

If you did get proof then you would have a choice to make; of getting professional help (couples counseling), or breaking up. For the kids sake I would hope that you both find a way to make it work.

If she is not cheating, but you are acting like you don't trust her, you may end up driving her away anyway. So you may need counseling regardless.

Answer 3

It's hard 2 say if she's cheating or not, but her hiding things from u does seem as though she's doing something that she has no business doing. If u're going 2 do this big investigation 2 find out rather or not she's cheating...u better leave her, wat would b the point 2 do all that & stay w/ her. If u think she's cheating & u want 2 find out n a mature way, u should ask her & tell her that her behavior is hurting u. But 1 things 4 sure is wat's n the darkness comes 2 lite.

Answer 4

prob is if she has to hide things from you something is going on. The fact that she might be and wont tell you means you can't trust her. If she is and you get told or find out the answer is up to you. can you handle it is she did? can you look past it? Has all trust been lost? Do you love her enough to let her build that trust back up? if not then leave it will only be better for you. Good luck

Answer 5

well my friend it does sound like she may be up to something. trust is the back bone of a relationship and if there is any question you definitely need to make the move.... move out! when you get a felling something like this is going on your instincs are generally right. have you cheated on her is that why you are so worried about it. i have cheated and been cheated on in the past and i know how much it sucks to be cheated on so i don't dare do such a thing anymore. but like song number7 on the the panic at the disco CD SAYS ( LYING IS THE MOST FUN A WOMEN CAN HAVE WITHOUT TAKING HER CLOTHES OFF) i find there is some truth to that but not all women are like that but it sounds like yours is. i would say f**k her and send her packing. there are too many good women out there to be worried about one, right.
you know you could date an ugly and the chance of her cheating will be lessen. good luck dude, happy ho'n!

Answer 6

Trust your gut. If you know what you will find, you usually end up finding worse than you expected and you are only torturing and hurting yourself more. Once the trust is lost, it is hard to regain. I have no real answer for you because if you are snooping or looking for something, then no one can tell you not to. You will do it anyway. Just be careful in what you find and make sure you can deal with it.

Answer 7

you made some really good points and in a relationship you have to have boundaries which usually includes not cheating. if she isnt cheating on you and you keep on accusing her then she might just break it off but if she is and you catch her you will probably break it off in the heat of the moment so the question is, if she is cheating and you catch her, and you think that the relationship is worth it....can you handle having that relationship knowing that you've been cheated on...remember you only live once.

Answer 8

those that have nothing to hide will hide nothing, think when someone is doing things they casually bring a friend into the relationship, and say it is the friend doing it, when it is really them doing it. yes i do think she is cheating, but doesn't want to end the relationship with u. what u do when u find out would be up to u. depends if u can forgive her, depends on her attitude, her level of remorse, but if she is lying to u now, that is not a good sign.

Answer 9

Unless you have major trust issues, most of the times when you suspect someone cheating on you, they are cheating on you. If you find out she is cheating and your not married and have no kids together, kick her to the curb. In do time you will find someone better for you. You may not think you will, but you will.

Answer 10

cheating or not cheating is not really the question. the question is if you can trust her or not. and judging from the context of your letter...you say you do but the underlying fact is you can't. it really does not matter if she did or she did not cuz you just can't trust her so just move on and stop your suffering and get away from the vicious cycle.