Any advice?

Question

I have had a very strong crush on a girl at school for near two years now (i'm currently a ninth grader), but I'm unable to muster the courage to tell her. I'd describe her but I haven't got enough characters. There are several things keeping me back (although I have tried to start a conversation):

1.) I'm just plain awkward when it comes to socializing with people for the first time.

2.) I'm very concerned that I might get laughed off. I'm a quiet guy, and I like to think more than speak, but when it comes to speaking to this girl, I can't think of anything to say. I go mind-dead around her, or at least I did. She no longer has any of my classes so I don't see her anywhere except when I occasionally pass her in the hall between classes. I also am not very agressive, and may appear weak.

3.) My family is lower-middle class, and I'm relatively sure her family is very-very well off.

Anyway, despite being speechless around her, her presence makes me feel elated.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Well, first of all, you sound very intelligent. No matter what your financial status. No matter what you look like. You seem like you have a lot to offer her.
It appears you know how you feel about her. And you had no problem writing it here. In the same manner, you can say the same thing to her.
There's always people out there who seems to "take your breath away". However, this should not stop you.
Confidence is the key. You will never know until you tried. She may have the same feeling about you. Don't know until you take that first step.
Now, if you're totally afraid to talk to her right now, find out all you can about her before talking to her. Find her likes, dislikes. This gives you "ammo" when you do finally talk to her.
Be prepared. Not just prepared about what to say. Prepared what to do if she says no. Prepared what to do if she says yes.
Don't make the very first time you talk to her an hour conversation. Make it short and sweet. First, she must know you exist. Let her know you want to meet her acquaintance. Then, next time, you can elaborate on your intent. Take things one step at a time. Know that she's not going to date you or jump in the sack with you on the first conversation. It's going to take time. After awhile, you may become friends. Then, at that point, you can ask her out on an "innocent" date. Maybe to a public event (a concert, a game). Then, if that goes well, then you can ask her on a one-on-one date.
Here's some examples. You go up to her, introduce yourself. You say something like, "I used to have you in one of my classes. Yes, I remember you." That's good because woman feel 'proud' when someone can remember them from a long time ago. Quite the ego booster. Continue with "it's great to see you again. Man, it's been a long time." Then, leave it at that. Say, "hey, I gotta go, but maybe I'll see you around."
Then, the next time you see her, say, "Nice you see you again." Slowly throw in some "hint" words. Like "It's neat to bump into you again." or something like that. Again, she'll now realize that you remember her now from the last time you bumped into her.
As time goes on, you have already built up an acquaintance relationship with her. Also, you are now building up confidence with talking to her. Later, you then move in for the "ask out". For example, you may be standing there talking to her and maybe you see a flyer for a concert. You ask, "Are you going to this concert?" If she says Yes, then you respond, "They are a great band, aren't they?" Now, you two actually have something in common. You continue, "I'm going too. Maybe I'll see you there"
Now, at the concert, make it a point to "bump into her again".
You now are both at an event standing there together talking, but yet not an official date. Strike up conversation on the common interests. Ask a lot of questions about her. Girls like when boys inquire about them. Don't ask stupid questions. Ask questions that require long answers. For example, don't ask, "do you like this band?" The answer will be yes. Of course she does, why is she there? Instead, ask "Have you seen this band before in concert?" if she says yes, then follow up with "oh yea, where?" Then, let her tell you about the other time. You've just created a time that you and her shared.
So, the next time something like this shows up again, you can maybe ask her to go with you. It's innocent because it's a public atmosphere and no "intentions" are present.
Keep this up and then eventually you can ask her to dinner or date.
Remember, you have all the time in the world. Don't rush right into "you want to go to dinner?"
Feel the water of the pool before diving right in.

Answer 2

wowwwwww. lol since you sound like a major intravert you might want to practice getting up your courage. girls genoraly like guys who are cocky. but not so cocky that you are annoying.
here are some tips for getting the girls:
1)be very well groomed(includes bathing regularly, brushing your teeth atleast twice a day, dressing as well as you can manage) not that you arent but yea
2)speaking up when you have something to say.
3)be friendly
4)smell good!!!!
5)be helpful
6) you sound like a smart guy, use some of that brainpower to create some witty jokes and comments!
7) be playful
8)even if you feel awkward what ever you do dont show it.

okay now even if these tips dont get you the girl you have been dreaming about for 2 years it will help you get some other girl in the future. and since you are only a freshman, you still have a chance at becoming more popular. but you wont just poof into popularity you have to work at it. good luck!

Answer 3

Boy kid, your a mess. and got some puppy love going. A good mess don't misunderstand. For one thing, don't put your family situation down and hers up, you don't really know and if she likes you it won't matter. Why don't you ask her to go to the library with you after school to do homework and maybe just the two of you alone you can feel more at ease and the conversation will flow. or just some where that doesn't take money. if you can spare a litttle ask her if she would like to have a coke with you one day, if not after school some saturday. good luck hope it goes well.

Answer 4

Normally I wouldn't suggest this route, but you sound like you'd do well putting it all in writing. Write a short, sincere note (nothing too over-the-top), ask her for a moment of her time and ask her to read it and think about it. She may need some time to think about it, so be patient.

Whenever you take a risk with a woman you have strong feelings for you do risk being humiliated or rejected. If you believe she is worth feeling that way for, give it a shot.

Best luck to you!

Answer 5

Just tell her! You are just starting on your dating life. You have to get used to telling girls how you feel. Believe me, if love is there, backgrounds of money should not matter.

Answer 6

most importantly be yourself, don't be so hooked up with that girl, talk to her in the hall way or at lunch when not so many people are around you won't get as embarrased

Answer 7

Go for it. You've got nothing to lose. Even if she shoots you down, that's valuable experience for next time.

Answer 8

wow you have a situation... put on an act for her...pretend like youve known her for a while. be your self
what do you want to say to her

Answer 9

Use the email or text her silly.
Write her a letter