This is what happened. Monday morning I took my daughter to work( her car is in the shop). On the way home, I hit a patch of ice at a stop sign and skidded out into the middle of a state highway. Thankfully, no semi's were coming or I wouldnt be here today. My son was very upset about this, because the police never called my husband to salt( he works for the street dept.) My son e-mailed the police and asked where they were and why they wasnt out patroling and keeping an eye on the roads( they call 90% of the time to say the roads need attn.) Now my husband is really mad at my son, and when he( my son) gets home from work, I have a feeling theres going to be a big fight!! Was my son wrong to e-mail the cops?? Or is my husband being a jerk about the whole thing?? I'm to upset to think right about this, so I need people's opinions. Thanks alot!!!!
2007-02-21 08:28:41 · 11 answers · asked by pebbles 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a firm believer that a person's safety is much more important than taking a little brow beating. Your husband can't take accountability for every inch of road. If he gets mad, then the responsibility was his and shame on him for not making the effort to make the roads safer. But if it's not his responsibility, then he shouldn't get so emotional about it.
I would have done the same. I'd rather get yelled at then know that a lack of concern could possibly cause the deaths of other people.
2007-02-21 09:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1> Everyone is upset because you all care about each other.
2>It doesn't make sense to add blame to an already emotionally charged situation, especially since their is no real way of knowing if anyone could have prevented what transpired.
3>A possibly bad situation turned out okay, adding an arguement takes away from the fact that really you all just care about each other.
4>So, If your husband over-reacts, try not to add to it and really that is all that your son did, right or wrong, is react to what could have happened.
5>YOU ARE BOTH OKAY. That's is the outcome, and it is a good one. Savor it, one and all. The guy on the other end of the phone is over it. Have a good evening.
2007-02-21 16:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by j2juli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son was right if he was an ordinary citizen. I have the same problem because my husband works for the city. It is all politics and the guys that work there take a lot of bull sh.....
So if you or your son could get someone else to call in for you it would be better. Trust me your son was right but you really need to know how much crap it cost your husband at work. get someone else to call. And tell him it won't happen again.
2007-02-21 16:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would your husband get upset over something that your son did? Your husband should be thankful and blessed that you're here right now and be thankful for your son's quick thinking. You should sit down with your husband and son and tell your husband how you feel. Most importantly, be honest with yourself and your husband as well. Good luck!
2007-02-21 16:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that perhaps your son reacted out of his concern for you and your husband is perhaps reacting out of embarassment because he has a working relationship with the police.
Without knowing the dynamics of the relationship between your son and husband, I would say that if you spoke to your husband and asked him to consider that his son (If it is his son) was only concerned about you when he emailed the police.
On another note, it seems that you have already sided with your son (You seem ready to asume that your husband is capable of being a "Jerk"). If you rush to the defense of your son too quickly or too strongly it could precipitate the very fight you are concerned about.
2007-02-21 16:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rickster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was your son's responsibility to call the cops. However, I think it would be wise for your husband to "cool off" before they discuss it. Your son needs to be reminded of what are his responsibilities and what aren't. But he also needs to be treated with dignity and respect. It's a boundary issue. A great book on the subject is: Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
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Good luck!
2007-02-21 16:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i side with your husband because theres not enough people to sand the roads,they can't be at 2 places at once.they primarily sand the most important places first.instead of your son calling the cops to complain,and making his father look bad,he should of been greatful no one was hurt and let the publics works do their jobs.God bless.
2007-02-21 16:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by latinoheatandwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell every body to sit at the kitchen table or at the couch and say that you have a family meeting and talk aobut the situation of what happend and hopefully it will be all resolved tonight good luck
2007-02-21 16:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by j13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son was just reacting to the fact he could have lost you. Your husband should be reminded of this and calm down.
2007-02-21 16:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your son only did what he did because he was upset at almost possibly losing his momma...
your husband should understand that, and if he doesnt, well what the heck, how would HE have felt if you woulda gotten hit?
2007-02-21 16:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋