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In a bad time in my life I cheated on my wife. I found out what its affect on everyone involved, and don't want to repeat it. So if i told you that I had cheated in the past, would you go out with me? Could you ever trust me? Would you want to know this information at all?

2007-02-21 08:25:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

11 answers

Personally, I would like to know what kind of person I'm dealing with up front. I would not think that your cheating on me unless you gave me a reason to. The thing is that if the relationship was started based on honesty- you must remain honest. I have always said that if one person in the relationship is not in it 100%, then they need to be honest with the other person and maybe give each other some space until things can be figured out either way. I would appreciate it more if I was told their interest lie elsewhere than to be told I've been made a fool of. People change and I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater. Trust is not always given but must continuously be earned!

2007-02-21 08:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0 0

i would love for you to tell me...it depends on what you did when you cheated and who you cheated with and why....it would always be hard to trust someone that has cheated but love covers a multitude of things so if the person really loves you they will get over it. but i would go out with you if i was single, liked you, or knew you for a while. but i am a very forgiving person but i also have limits and boundaries just like everyone else.

2007-02-21 08:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by nikka 2 · 0 0

can no longer answer for men - yet they do cheat yet then you definately are no longer his confessor. Why do they lay it on us are we meant to experience in charge by way of fact we don't forgive them - that is their mom they could desire to be speaking with. mothers forgive very just about each little thing. nicely now i'm a female, been there greater advantageous than as quickly as. tried forgiving some circumstances, yet that appeared to grant them license to maintain going for it as they have been valuable that they could be forgiven. nicely while i ultimately have been given the message that i became no longer the license bureau, i ended the forgiving nonsense - wager what - it became happy with them and that they moved on. I moved on too. Can take a great variety of years & adulthood to comprehend which you have in hassle-free terms one existence to stay and at an analogous time as you could & wan't to proportion that is okay to get entangled in different issues to augment your existence. If marriage is interior the plan so be it. If no longer then that's a huge huge worldwide. No pressures to any extent further. Having a very sturdy existence, a great variety of buddies, family individuals & hobbies. There are little issues that are extremely forgivable, do no longer even could desire to ask, confessions are a 'no flow' for me.

2016-09-29 10:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You've got a problem...No self-respecting woman would go out with a cheater. It's pretty safe to say "once a cheater, always a cheater" - and if not, why take the chance? But, honesty is the best policy always. I say, don't ask - don't tell! But if asked, don't lie. Then, you would be a liar AND a cheater.

2007-02-21 08:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by tlc 3 · 0 0

Honestly depending on your personality and the amount of trust developed. I think that is one of those things you keep to yourself until you are in a commited relationship and feel like sharing with your partner, or you can let go of your guilt and not even say anything to anyone.

2007-02-21 08:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by SavingCats 2 · 0 0

If he admits to it and says he's done it once, but more than that and it's just a waste of time. Once a guy is a cheater they rarely ever stop. And if your wife left you, then I'm happy for her.

2007-02-21 08:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 0 0

i belive that i would ask you about your past but then again everyone has one and we all have our ups and downs.. so i think that it might be harder for me to trust you knowing that you have cheated in the past but nevertheless you learn from your own mistakes so i think that i would give you an opportunity but you would have to build up the trust..

2007-02-21 08:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Honestly, if you admit it, you're brave and we will admire your honesty. However, we must be able to see the change in you that you won't do it again. But don't keep it a secret.

2007-02-21 08:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0 0

honestly? i'm not sure. it depends on the person. I would normally say no i wouldnt cause every guy i've been with has cheated one me so i wouldn't.

2007-02-21 08:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes, I would. Everyone has a past.

2007-02-21 08:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by CuteCaribChic 2 · 0 0

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