How do I make this stop?

Question

How do I make THEM stop? How can I make my Grandmother, Mother, even Father, understand who I acually am (Personality-wise, clothing, language, etc...) without them thinking I've been lieing to them or need to go to the nut house?

How I can I get my mom to stop buying me these shorts, which are nice, but to my distaste, too short and....girlish? I'm a GIRL, but I don't like wearing dresses, short shorts, long skirt, mini skirts, skirts in general, very short shirts, or anything too girlish/hooker-related.

I like wearing shorts, jeans, pants, T-shirt, Longsleved shirts, and baggy shirts. Help me please, I'm going crazy with this, I hate arguing with them, but I'm REALLY uncomfortable with these kind of clothing. X(

Thing is, I'm 12 (They won't let me go anywhere by myself, we live in a huge city). But the thing they WON'T accept it, we just had a fight, all four of us, about 20 minutes ago. Heck, they even said I was to dress "approriately" as a "young woman", I hate it when they bring that up, then they start talking about how when I get older, I'll have a boyfreind, not a girlfreind, since they don't want me to dress as a "dumb boy", as in cloths that ARE acually comfortable to ME.

The problem began (well not really, I just ACUALLY noticed it today.) over the fact that my mom won't let me wear boy-styled Swim Trunks ( and the top of the bikini of course), but what they DON'T see is, my body and looks arn't build for that, I mean think about it, how many girls do you see wear the most frilliest pink dress, who aren't exactly thin and Lolita-centric, while listening to Papa Roach? Exactly my point, I just like durable army-pattern clothing.

My parents are Cuban ( no Sterio-type ideas please.), and since I'm the only girl (neice, daughter, grandaughter, etc.) they want to force THIS onto me, make me have a 15's, and all that is girly.

I'm not like that, I'm loud, blunt, like shiny black stuff, and Rock/Heavy Metal music. Yet there they are trying to shove me into a pink dress and heels.

Leave that for Partis Hilton, or Britney Spears is what I'll like to say.

Answer 1

First, do not confuse clothing with personality. Sure, what you choose to wear can reflect your personality, but your personality cannot be defined by what you wear. Wearing skirts will not change who you are.

Don't argue and fight. Just say thank you for the gift, and take it to the store and exchange it. Or just don't wear it. Eventually they'll catch on. There's no need to make a fuss about it.

Answer 2

Ask your parents if you can go clothing shopping with them the next time they go.
When you go, dont scare them off by dragging them into hot topic or anything, that may send them the wrong message and immediately get them to shoot down any clothes you like.
If your mom holds up something too girly for you, have something you've already eyeballed, at the same time and say "How about this? It isnt a skirt, so I wont have to worry about it flying up, and is more durable, it'll save you money in the long run mom" or something to that effect.
They may be impressed that your personal style is practical.
If it doesnt work, then offer a deal (without doing anything she your parents might think is whining, because that'll also throw them and make them shoot down your ideas). Say that you'll take the skirt (or other girly item they hold up) if you can get two new pairs of jeans. Or even compromise, and ease them slowly into the idea of the "real you" by holding up some durable pants or a long hoodie or whatever, but make it one with rhinestones, or a fairy on it or whatever, to sort of slowly move into the direction you want your wardrobe headed!
:)
Hope this has helped a little, I know it's hard when you can't express yourself with your clothing (ask any adult who has to wear a stupid suit all day!)

Answer 3

This may sound over simple, but are you able to buy some clothes of your own? As in not wear the ones they buy you?

Answer 4

Tell them you appreciate the gesture but if they want to buy you clothes that they should take you with them so perhaps you can come to an agreement on clothing, meet them in the middle.

Answer 5

First, take Pink Confession's advice. Second, try to understand you, then try explaning it to your parents, ect. There's nothing wrong with girls wearing dresses, long as it's not all they are allowed to wear.

Answer 6

Tell them the truth. Tell them what you like. They have to accept you for who you are.