Need help about a cute boy...?

Question

This q. isn't so much on dating as it is over greater issues as a whole; it's just been my experience that more ppl answer dating q's, which says something about our societal values, but...
I have never had a b/f. I used to always think,"It'll happen later--soon!" I'm almost 21. It hasn't happened.
Oh and friends? They always seem to have plans-w/ my roommate. I feel so overshadowed and ignored all the time. I never have weekend plans and I'm in Freakin' college-"the best yrs of my life." In fact, if you look at my phone, you'll find the only calls I get are from mom & dad.
I don't even think I'll even get into med school-my life dream...It's not like I even party/drink/do drugs, etc. and still, no A's.
I'm so scared that my life is going to be some joke, that I'll end up alone once my parents, God forbid, pass away, I'll be alone. I'll literally be the crazy old maid who lives in a (mediocre) house, w/ a mediocre job (b/c she didn't make it into med school). What do I do? :(

Answer 1

i dont believe that just because u still havnt had a boyfriend or that ur not an A student means that ur entire life will be a complete disaster as you say.
i mean, you should just try to take it day by day ( i know its easier to say than it is to do, but still, its worth giving it a try ).
you know how you say that you dont go out much like partying or dancing and stuff, i think that you should try going out now and then i mean just getting out of that every day routine and doing something new and fun that you yourself will enjoy. it dosnt necesarily have to be going out dancing or anything wild, it can be a moonlit walk or just lie down at a park watching the stars or something. and you never know, you might even find a guy that enjoys doing the same things that you do and he might even become one of your best friends, so take a chance and try something new every now and then and treat yourself out to something special.
now as for the med school, i believe that if you trust in yourself and start forgetting about the future and pressuring yourself you could do a lot better and i mean, you dont need to have straight A's to get into the best college ever, you mainly need to show that you will do your best and not give up. you see, ive got this friend that is going to harvard and when i was asking him about how he got in and stuff he was telling me that they dont really look for straight A students because those are normally the ones that have it all easy and will cute some slack every once in a while, instead they look for kids that will do their best and try to get better marks i mean if u have a C and in your next test you get a B, it shows that you are really working hard to get what you want. so take it easy on yourself and stop stressing about it that much.

so as a conclusion, have fun and enjoy life while your young and you can and as for school, believe in yourself and that if u really want it you can get it.


GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Deep breath. I know that it all seems like a lot, but everything that you are dealing with has a way of being sorted out. Believe it or not it is very uncommon that people don't date until they are in college, or even done with college - this is true of most of my friends and family members, and there is nothing wrong with it. I know the allure of a relationship must seem thrilling, but you don't want a boyfriend just to say that you have had one(maybe that's easy for me to say, sorry if it sounded judgemental). I always looked at a realtionship as something that lasts for ever (even after you break up you don't lose those people no matter what). You will find someone when it's right- and when you aren't looking, thats always how it happens. (i can really vouch for that!)
next, drinking partying- never did much of that either, and thats okay. You don't need to do all those things to have a good time. Perhaps this would be a good time to find things that you like to do by yourself, and then once you are comfortable with that make your own plans and invite other instead of relying on them to take you places. I was very similar in college, i was very much alone until i met my best friend and we became two peas in a pod! we couldn't live with out each other, and we only started talking because we both forgot our books in a class.

School grades are not all college is ment to be about- sometimes its the things that you learn OUTSIDE the class room. If you need help with work the BEST thing that you can do is go visit your professors during office hours, they are there to help, and they will respect you for being honest -really.

Lastly, if you are bored, and you want to get into medschool, and need a jumps start because grades aren't perfect- go be active in your community. Join an ambulence squad or volunteer, expereince like that is highly valued by schools, and it makes you feel good about you, and its a place to meet people like you.
Life is beautiful. You will be better than fine, you will be great.

Answer 3

You should try making some friends & be social. You should go out to clubs & meet people. Just say "Hello" or "Good morning" to someone walking around campus. Then maybe sooner or later, some guy will come in your life & then you can continue on from there. You should try your best in school & stay off the computer! Unless for school work that is.. But yeah. Finish your school work when ever you are given & study for your tests and you`ll be alright. Good Luck (:

Answer 4

Try to shake stuff up a little. Get a new look. Cut and dye your hair, buy a few new outfits, ones you wouldn't normally wear. Invite some people out.

As for your grades and med school, if you really want to do that you may have to forget the social life for now and study hard.

Life changes everyday.

Answer 5

Ya know what. If your dream is to have a more than mediocre job then you should follow your dream. But being older like myself, I'll tell you that having a more than mediocre job isn't going to make you happy unless you really love doing it. If it's for the money then it's worthless. Like you said your afraid your going to be alone. What good is it if you have lots of money and a big house with no one to share it with. I would concentrate on being more outgoing and not the schooling.

Answer 6

You forgot about the cats........ Open your friend group besides your parents go to a club with your roomate and show some crazy moves on the dance floor or take a body shot .....wow sorry got carried away OK be open and honest DONT BE A DORK!!!!!!! OK I'm not saying you are just be yourself just really cool!!!!!!!!!!!!.........OR throw a freaking sweet b-day party at a club!

Answer 7

Okay. ummm, you obviously have to get a social life. ummm, Get out there with your friends, go with them on their weekend plans. Meet people, ask your friends for bf advice. Get more out in the open. Be flirty and fun. Your in college... you can do whatever you want. have confidence in yourself. Talk to that guy.

Answer 8

first of all, you need some self-esteem, and second of all dont keep to yourself, you dont have to do crazy stuff to have fun, but you should go out and have some fun. study hard, see if you can get another chance to get into med-school.