I met a guy a few months ago and we went out on a few dates, texted a bit etc. Just before Xmas he went a bit quiet and kept making excuses when i asked him out for another date. he then said that we should cool off for a bit as he had stuff going on, he was never specific but i knew he ex was getting married and he has a daughter with her. so i let it be and only contacted him to wish him a happy christmas. I then got a text from him the end of January saying hi and explaining to me that his daughter will be moving to france with his ex and new husband at the end of february, so that was why everything wasnt good before xmas. He did also mention meeting for a catch up sometime soon.
Right to the question, I want to meet up with him but dont know how long to leave it. do i ask him now before his daughter goes to try and take his mind of it, do i wait til after she has gone or leave it up to him?
2007-02-21 08:02:04 · 18 answers · asked by blondie5883 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should leave it up to him. let him know you're there for him but don't pressure him or he'll get freaked out. It is his ex and his child so be understanding.
2007-02-21 08:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him know you are happy to meet up sometime and then leave it up to him. If you find you are busy or have met someone new before then so be it.
You have let him alone, well done, he had a lot going on, it may work out for you in the future, good luck!!
2007-02-21 08:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it up to him, this is a very serious change and he will remember how you were there for him and he will contact you when he is settled down, just let him know you are there for him and when he is ready you will be there, but dont portray yourself as desperate cause then he might think he can have you whenever he wants and then you will just be used. Keep contact but only to let him know that you know he is going through a hard time and if he needs you you are there, confusing but dont act to fast.
2007-02-21 08:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you what was going on so I don't think he has been brushing you off. He mentioned meeting for a catch-up. I think it would be appropriate to e-mail him with a specific time and place in mind. I don't think I would make it some romantic hide-away. Just an informal gathering place like a soda shop or a place like TGI Fridays.
2007-02-21 08:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it quite is puzzling to assert without being there. perhaps it in simple terms the fashion of ladies you're drawing near. perhaps they don't look to be the appropriate sort to be in a love dating with. From what you have written it could seem such as you have lots going for you. perhaps they are slightly intimidated via the different woman acquaintances and think of you're a participant. i've got not considered the way you act around them so it quite is puzzling to assert.
2016-12-17 15:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww thats mean. its not that he's not into you. its the fact that stress can cause so much trouble to the mind that it really doesn want make choices. so that means he probably didn wanna lead you on to only be left hangin while he was goin thru that process. so...wat you should do is meet with him only wen you have sum one else or don have complete feelings for him. cuz he is unstable and you don need sumone like that
2007-02-21 08:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mae** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i kinda got simalar situation a few years back.And the hurt he must feel is very hard on him .Mabe a friend is what he needs or lover whichever you choose.Wish ya the best Peace
2007-02-21 08:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by walter_nahbexie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Blondie--I think this man has a lot of issues to resolve before he is ready to be serious--Just keep in touch with him to keep you up to speed as to what is going on in his life. Good Luck
2007-02-21 08:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it! Life's too short. Say you would like to meet up and for him to let you know when suits him. Good luck.
2007-02-21 08:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him out for a coffee at a place and time.
if he says no then stop waiting around for him as he has too much going on and you are not a priority.
2007-02-21 08:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋