after a very long relation we human are involved in a knot with him/her in very strong relation. You did each and every possible thing for him/her but if he/she calls u suddenly and says i don't want to marry with you. I am not interested in you. Totally unexpected which you u had never imagined in your life even. Than how would you react?
2007-02-21 07:54:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be shocked and curious. Have you asked why they changed their mind? So you can know for the next relationship in the future. If you're going to fight to stay together, ask what can you do to make that person happy and satisfied in the relationship.....
2007-02-21 08:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be devastating news and of course I would feel hurt.
However, you have to re-examine the 7 years you were in this relationship with your ex and determine during the course of your relationship if there were obvious or subtle signs of them losing interest in the relationship. Many times we overlook or pretend to not recognize what is happening before our eyes because the emotions of our feelings are really deep. We all do this because this is human nature. I don't believe if the relationship from both partys are loving each other unconditionally and committed to each other would abruptly end the relationship after 7 years. I question the motive of the one who ended the relationship.
This is a great time to reinvent yourself interms of what your expectations are in a relationship. How do you value yourself? Have you compromise yourself in the event of losing your identity uniqueness as a individual. You will definitely survive this ordeal and you'll grow from this negative situation. One thing that you need not to do is dwell on the past. Forgive and forget and start a new day today and for your future. I know this is easily said than done. But believe me I've been there and done that. I'll keep you in prayer. God Bless
2007-02-22 02:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can be a long standing problem that he/she finally realised they couldn't deal with.. sometimes it's cold feet..
I think the best way to react is to have a chat about it.. see what's going on.. why they suddenly changed their minds/ whether it was something that's been on their minds for a while..
And then if it's really a problem of someone growing apart from someone else then it's time to move on.. learn from the experience and try not to let it mar your next relationships.
Also try to enjoy being single again! it has it's perks..
2007-02-21 17:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gem D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the bad side maybe skeletons started crawling out of the cupboard or were dug up from a backyard to prompt the sudden change of heart. On the good side maybe the loved one is testing the other by following the saying. "If you love someone set him/her free. If he/she returns then in love they have been, if not they were never meant to be. So the booted-out person should run to his/her lover and win back his / her heart.
2007-02-21 16:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is over, put a distance.
Be glad it happened now, and not after, 10 children lots of other baggage and big apartment.... and other payments.
Write it of as a good experience.
Wish other well and get on with the life, not easy though. But nothing can be done, salvage if you can but.....
2007-02-21 16:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask myself 'what did I miss?', surely something brought this on, whether from her or from him. Or they didn't really care as much as they led on to, and after 7 years you should be able to see that in some way I would think.
Perhaps he wasn't really listening when she spoke, perhaps she had needs, desires and wants that needed filling and she was trying to tell him that but he missed it.
Tough place to be in though.
2007-02-21 16:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would cry myself to death.
I haven't been in such a big relation like that yet.
But I know it could happen to me.
Scary.
=(
2007-02-21 16:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no reaction complety mood out
2007-02-21 20:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why all the him/ her just give us your example..aside from that leave her and ove on you cannot make someone love you
2007-02-21 16:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by sevenout7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will go for new surch.....
2007-02-21 16:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by mukul_123jbp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋