shes said she loves me over and over but keeps saying shes not doing her course work as much, not seeing certain friends as much, but i have told her i would finish it if it's messing her up so much but she insists we don't. what should i do?? please help me?
2007-02-21 07:50:49 · 32 answers · asked by Bruza 17/uk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just make her understand that you care for her (if you do) but that she needs to still be in touch with her friends and do her work. No one likes a needy person.
2007-02-21 07:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a relationship takes compromise, as you do decrease the amount of time you spend with other friends ( people always say this isn't true, but the reality is that you do). However, she should not be ignoring her coursework. (Side note - I don't think she is right to blame you for this). If you are seeing this girl all the time, maybe cut back a little to give her some time to see her friends (or plan outings with her friends along with you) and definitely give her time to do her coursework. She won't be able to do it with you there, because you and your cute self are too big of a distraction for her! I don't think she is blowing smoke up your ***, though.
Good Luck!
2007-02-21 07:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for a get out clause?
If not, give her space. Let her do her studies and meet with her friends. Loving someone is about helping them. Where will either of you be if you split up? Probably both without friends and education!
You don't have to split up to do your own thing and take care of your future. You can do it all. Do the studying because it will help your future together. See friends because you will ALWAYS need them. See each other regularly and have quality time together because you want to.
2007-02-25 02:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dirty Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to split in order for her to see more of her friends and do course work etc. In any relationship it is impotant that neither of you drop friends or miss work. You can have a perfectly good relationship together and each still see friends and concenrate on work. Just arrange the days and times you will have as your time together. Even if you only see each other a couple times a week as long as it is quality time then it is all good. Quality not quantity is the improtant thing
2007-02-21 07:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do. You should follow your heart and do what you think is best for you and her. Do you love her as well? If so, It can be hard. But just do what you think is best. and I know you'll figure it out sooner or later.
also, you might want to take into consideration how much time you spend with her. if it's causing her to fall back, and maybe even yourself, consider taking a break. not forever, just dont see eachother as much. you probably need time away from eachother to catch up on some other things. even though she insists, you should probably talk to her about it.
2007-02-21 07:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ aaalex. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does love you probably but she also needs her personal and private time. I have had the same girl for 6 years and I know through experience. Give her her personal time or you will loose her or worse she will do something you both regret. Trust me. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. And this is something we all must remember even though its tough at times to do this because you might not me busy and want to spend time with her but she may have something else to do. You both need time apart because if you push it to much and never have time without each other you will always be wondering what else is out there, and that will lead to bad problems. Show her love and affection but also be understanding if she wants to spend time with her friends. It will work I promise.
2007-02-21 07:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just arrange to see each other a couple of times a week that will give you both time to catch up with other friends and get the coursework done - in fact the relationship will work better if you both have other interests
2007-02-21 07:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her then why would you want to end it if shes insisting you dont? its a good thing that shes not just devoting her entire world to you, you both need time with your friends and she needs time to do coursework, i think shes a very sensiible girl to be saying that and just think when her course is over how much more time together you will have
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2007-02-25 06:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound familiar, I was in a certain problem my self and i only did that because of peer pressure, my friends will always ask why i never hang out with them any more....my tutors and lecturers telling to me to study more.....it sucks....Tell her that she need to think of what she really needs and who/what are her priorities...give her space to think about it but not too long because she might get pulled away from you by her friends and her obligations to her courses....ask her to make the decision best for her...you have to be understanding and not become another pressure for her...make her feel that she is wanted and needed by you.
2007-02-21 08:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lornaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you guys love eachother doesnt mean you have to give up everything else. Dont give her an ultimatum or you breaking up...let her see her friends and have more time to do her work. Less time makes the time you spend together more special
2007-02-21 07:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by moi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 08:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by pellenz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋