My boyfriend gets beat by his dad almost everynight....?

Question

My boyfriend's dad beats him almost everynight. And I'm not talkin about hitting.I'm talking about punching, pushing and kicking.I would really like to see this stop. I mean he's 14 years old. How can i get this to stop without confronting the police. His mother kicked him out once but took him back 4 a 2nd chance. Please help me stop this from happening?!?

Answer 1

rough!!man !!!humm do u have a regular house life maybe u could take him in with ur family..........wait no bad idea boyfriend girlfriend under dads roof nope huh ..........be brave go to the cops its the right thing......he might get seriously messed up in his future do it because u care about him !!!!Maybe ask ur parents the would help sorry i cant help much hopefully all will fall into place

Answer 2

You know, as children there isn't much that you can do if your boyfriend's mother lets his dad live there and beat him. It is up to her as his mother to take care of the situation, you could talk to the police, but you sid that you didn't want to get them involved...the only other people to talk to would be the Department of Humas Services in your area, they take care of children in abusive situations, but it is also a very real possiblity that they will remove him from the home i.e. put him in foster care,(so that is something to consider too). If none of this is an option, you should try talking to another adult, your mother, the school counselor or principal, a coach(if your boyfriend is involved in sports. Your mother will do what she can I'm sure, but if not, the other people that I listed are there for a reason, and that is so that kids can go to them with their problems. They really do care, and they will do something about the situation! What ever you do, PLEASE do something, abusive situations, if not handled in an appropriate manner, always end violently!

Answer 3

I want to say first of all, I don't feel you are a horrible person, I feel you are simply misled into feeling you are cause of what's been going on in your life and well, I can relate a bit. When I was about 12 I started chatting up on chat rooms and talking 'dirty' cause it was so interesting back then, met this guy who seems to know everything about me (i didnt know what internet stalkers were then) and did pretty much the same as you. And I used to cut, but different reasons, anyway... I remember my mom finding out thru parent control and having record of the convos, and that day trying to kill myself with drug overdose. Luckily mom found my suicide note before it was late. And we talked. I think that's one really big thing you need, someone mature and understanding to talk to. 13 is a difficult age, having been there and done that, I can say you need all the support you can get now. And never doubt yourself. Cutting won't help matters, you feel strong and good but it isn't the solution. Your regrets for watching porn and cutting show you are on a higher level than you think you are, and your wanting to change is a strong step forward. If you want to talk to me I can AIM you, I remember all the confusion and pain of the early teens, but it's finally you alone who can stand up to all of that - you can either be your best friend or worst enemy in my belief. It takes time but you'll look back in years time and laugh all this off, trust me, from experience.

Answer 4

Tia, you gotta seek special help for this matter. I would like for your boyfriend to get proffessional help in school or outside of it. They can help him and you understand the problems he has at home. There's indeed a phone number you can call to report child abuse. You want to call 411 to know or something. Try the yellow pages. But I urge your boyfriend to seek help as soon as possible. Before it gets worst. So far, tell him to be strong. I advice him to protect himself when hurting. The best he can. It would be a mistake if he strikes back, because his father might strike back harder. He neds all the special help he needs. You just keeping his chin up, honey. What you need to do is to keep him busy. Maybe have him in your house with your family and do fun activities. Go out with them, etc. Another thing you can advice him to do is to stay afterschool doing some sports or studying (togehter, maybe). Keep him busy from all the abuse. This will avoid getting hurt and will distract him. Everything will be okay. Time will tell. I wish you and your boyfriend all the luck with all my heart. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Hi

It would be a good thing that you get the police involved and if they caught his dad beating him the way you described , he hopefully will be dealt with . But on the other hand you do not want your bf hating you for having his dad locked up but as his gf you only want what is best for him . Poor baby , the hell he must be living in I pray that he does not become an abuser himself .

GOD bless and take care

Answer 6

You need to contact the authorities because something needs to be done about this! I don't understand why his mother is allowing his father to beat the crap out of their son! Besides, both of his parents should take full responsibility for their actions and CPS will have to take legal action against both parents! Your boyfriend doesn't deserve to be treated this way and he deserves better! Good luck to you and do the right thing!

Answer 7

You really need to do the right thing and call the authorities (police). This is not normal behavior if what you are saying is true. Depending on the age you may have to call child protective services or whatever its called. If you really like him then look out for him.

Answer 8

His safety has to come above any fearful feelings. With this type of abuse, this child may very well wind up dead. He may be mad at you for taking him away from his home, but explain to him that you want him to be able to live in a safe enviroment where he or anyone else will have to fear for his life. Do you really want to live with that on your conscience if anything horrible happened to him?

Answer 9

this is very bad and you were brave to come forth with this information. have you told your parents about this or even have your dad call and inform him if he keeps it up he will and i mean will go to jail and bring social services on his back.. if your parents will not help call social services before he is really injured or killed. this must stop no one desires to be beaten up.
he is only a child help your friend he needs it.

Answer 10

Tell your loser boyfriend to stop talking back and be respectful to his parents and start doing something constructive around the house and keep away from little tramps.