It is abuse to:
1-Make you child do chores, no matter their age?
2-Tell your child no?
3-Make your child go to church?
I was bored so decided to ask this. I find it so funny that some people actually consider some of these abuse. Does anyone have any other absurd things they have heard people say were abuse?
2007-02-21 07:17:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That's too funny!!!! My son is 8 years old and he has chores...and if he doesn't do them he WILL hear no to a LOT of things...and at least he'll know who he better pray to in order to rescue his butt! lol!
Seriously though...he does have age appropriate chores (making his bed, setting the table, clearing the table, dusting, etc). He knows in order to get the things he wants, he needs to do them. If he doesn't, Mom will do them, but he loses out on the things he wanted.
He hears no all the time. Children need to understand that no means no and that's that. Not understanding that can lead to serious problems later.
As for religion, I was forced to go to Church...sometimes kicking and screaming. I said I would NEVER do that to my children. But you know what? Every Sunday I drag my son to Church. I believe it helps to instill morals. When he is old enough to make his own decisions on religion, then I will allow him that freedom...just as I was. I am no longer a practicing Catholic, but I believed so deeply in the morals I learned there that I choose to raise my son in that way.
2007-02-21 12:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by jasmine22s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chrildren need to do chores. They have to have some struture
in there lives. Telling your child no is not abuse because if it was
i'm afraid that almost everyone that has children would be abusers. Making your child go to church, well when they are young i think it is good for them to learn a little faith and if you are really lucky some of them will continue as they get older.
2007-02-21 15:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1: chores teach the child responsibility, it is not abuse, it's not overly necessary if you can find another way to teach your child responsibility, but it can be the difference b/w your son being a worker bee or being a leader etc..
2: more people SHOULD tell their child no, if you never tell your child no, their morale barometer will be non-existence b/c they will think EVERYTHING is possible.
3: If you want your child to believe in you, then sure send em to church, if you'd like your child to have an open mind about religion wait till they are older and can "taste all the available flavors" for themselves and make their own mind up. It's not abuse though, all you are doing is trying to teach them whatever belief structure you believe in by taking them to church with you..(that is if you are going to).
2007-02-21 15:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if that's abuse, my parents would have been jailed aloooong time ago! And so would I!!(HA!) No I think that's what's wrong with the kids of today, they know that they can get away with anything, and if they don't want to do something, they threaten us with " that's child abuse." If more would work hard and practice a faith, any faith, maybe these kids would have more direction in life. I'm sorry that's just how I feel.
2007-02-21 15:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not. I've heard people say SPANKING is abusive. Personally I think it's BS. I grew up being spanked, and I am the average teen. I don't like going to church, but my mom would like me to. Not abusive. One person said that not buying your teenager a cell phone and sports car is abuse (obviously from a teen, what a load of crap).
If any of that was abusive, everyone I know would have gone to prison long, long ago.
2007-02-21 16:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these things are not abuse. this things help a child get discipline for the real world. Telling your child only prevents them from being spoiled. Taking your child to church imposes your beliefs on them until they are old enough to make their own decisions.
2007-02-21 15:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Desi(red)™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chores I think show them responsibility. I don't think that religion should be shoved down a child's face by making them go to church if they don't want to go. They should be able to decide what they want to believe and what religion they choose if any. You can be a nice kind religious person without church.
2007-02-21 15:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Know It All 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NONE of those are abuse in my book. Abuse could also be allowing your child to grow up to be a spoiled self-concerned individual with no cares about anything but himself.
I had a problem though with our children's school who had police officers come to the school to give children the telephone number to call if their parents EVER hit them - CPS!!!!!
I believe in corporeal punishment for children old enough to understannd and follow directions. By telling my child to call CPS if I hit them, the authorities are deciding for me whether or not I can physically discipline my child. That made me VERY angry.
2007-02-21 15:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by Dovie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, No and No although pushing beliefs on a child by making them go to church is questionable.
2007-02-22 08:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse?!
No. Those sound like rules to me. And, children do good to have rules. I've heard kids say those things were 'torture' in a silly way but never abuse.
The people who say that have no idea what abuse really is. And, that's incrediably sad.
2007-02-21 15:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋