I broke up with my boyfriend after a 7 month relationship. He will not leave me alone. He keeps calling me and i don't know what to do. I got a new boyfriend and i guess he's jealous. When he calls me he says that he is going the make my life a living h**l, and that i would regret what i did to him. ALL I DID WAS BREAK UP WITH HIM, he never treated me like a girlfriend...no dates...not one cause he does not have a car or a job. I just really don't know what to do. My new bf wants to go to his house and settle it, but i said no cause i don' t want to start more crap.
AHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-21 07:10:31 · 13 answers · asked by Punkgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi
This sounds very serious and in today's world when you break up with some one , please be careful . In this case I would get a restraining order against him before his threats become reality . My experience was just like yours and it started out with him playing on my phone and hanging up . We ened up in court and he was charged with phone harrassment this was about 15 years ago and he was arrested .
One last thing I feel that your new bf really cares for you and I would not want him to get involved . One thing I have learned is that abusers do not like rejection and will try all they can to destroy you . Get a new phone number , go on with your life and be happy .
2007-02-21 07:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Constance M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke up because the first guy had no car or job? And now you're with a guy that wants to start a fight with the first guy, whom he doesn't even know?
The only problem here is YOU!
You need to find people of quality, and you need to exercise a few brain cells yourself. Breaking up with a guy because he doesn't have enough of the "right toys" (a car, a job) for you is totally shallow. No, you shouldn't call the police. What you should do is find someone who is in a healthy relationship, and learn how they made it work. Stay away from dating until you learn about what's TRULY important in life: NOT the cars, NOT the jobs, but a decent spirit and an educated mind.
2007-02-21 07:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you call the police you will need some type of evidence that he has been "harrassing you". You need to either let him leave a message or record the phone call so you can let the police hear it. But, even that, depending on the state you are in, would only charge him with "Harrassing Phone Calls". He will soon get out of jail if he even goes and be right back doing the same thing. Here's what I think you should do.
It would not be very smart to let your current bf go to HIS house and settle it. Because then he would be charged with trespassing, battery, etc. You should tell him to come to your house while your bf is there but not tell him that. Let him find out once he gets in the door. Then let your bf take care of it from there. That way it is done on your property and not his.
I have never done this before. But it is what "I" would do. You do not have to handle it this way though if you disagree.
2007-02-21 07:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tape record his calls and then make a police report. You will then be able to get a court order to get him to leave you alone. I know it is a hassle but, do not have your new boyfriend go ans settle it because that means he is going to make matters worse. If your new boyfriend goes to your X's then your x can make a report against your boyfriend. Then it will look like he is the victim and you are bothering him instead of the other way around.
2007-02-21 07:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simple next time he calls record at least 3 to 4 of his phone calls then go to the police and obtain an order of restraint against and make sure that it includes a protection clause (must maintain a certain distance) this will help you and your new bf have some peace.
2007-02-21 07:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by milton b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have a job or car? And you dated him for seven months? Well you now know to avoid losers. You need to see the police and get a restraining order. This can get much worse and very fast. You ex is dangerous and is transferring all his anger, shame, and bitterness on you.
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2007-02-21 07:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call a domestic violence hotline for advice. They may have you call the police, they may have you call a lawyer for help in obtaining a restraining order. They see this all the time and will have the experience and expertise to advise you.
Here's the website for the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
http://www.ndvh.org/
2007-02-21 07:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Australia you have to verbally tell them once that you will call the police if they continue. If he still doesnt stop just pay a visit to your local police station and make a report, They will advise you.
2007-02-21 07:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by kalloggs40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he calls tell him that you are informing the Police of his harrassment and he can deal with them from now on. If he calls again, yes, call the police.
2007-02-21 07:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him for harrasment. I understand why your guy wants to settle this im not a guy but he must care about you to want to settle it.
2007-02-21 13:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Un-Happy Gilmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋