My older sister,Beth, needs a babysitter for her kids while she's out of town.My stepmom offered to watch my kids while I go out to have some of my own fun with my oldest daughter(adopted) who's 14.I know my sister needs the babysitter(mom, who charges nothing) more then I do but i had my event planned before she did and all the other babysitters in town are busy that day.My sister means a lot to me and my mom can not watch both my kids and my sisters at the same time(too big a number), what should i do?should i take the deal and leave my sister without her trip or cancel my own fun for her to have hers?
2007-02-21 07:03:49 · 12 answers · asked by Mommy_of_4 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Why don't you let all the kids have fun and watch your sisters kids. Cousins should get a weekend every now and then to be together After all she is going on a trip and you are not! Then your sister could keep your others on the following weekend and you and your teen could go get a hotel for the night and have dinner, Go swimming watch movies and maybe even go get pampered a little bit:)
2007-02-21 07:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by OMeganO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how much your sister means to you and how this issue will affect your relationship, if you were to go out.
If your sister has a habit of getting what she wants all the time I'd keep your plans.
Personally, I would have thought that she would have made sure a babysitter was in place before she made her plans (that's a responsible parents job).
You could ask your daughter if you could do this some other time or if you can all find somewhere to go together that day. I guess it just depends on who or what is the more important .
2007-02-21 07:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let your sister use your mom for the weekend. That would be really cool of you :) First off, she's heading out of town, and you were planning on just spending time with your adopted daughter who is 14. Im sure she would completly understand and just ask your daughter if you two can do it the following weekend and explain the situation to her. Im sure she would be more than willing and will completly understand.....Order pizza get some movies and let her have a friend stay over :) Im sure that would make things all better!
2007-02-21 07:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at the possibilities. Obviously your event is important to you, and hers is important to her. First does your sister ask you to do this frequently, or is this a one time deal? Are either of your trips flexible, could one or the other be rescheduled? I would say if this isn't a normal occurrence(i.e. asking you to watch her children at the last minute), I would offer to watch her children with the stipulation that next time she check with you before she makes plans, and assumes that you can watch her kids. If asking you to watch her kids at the last minute is a normal occurrence, I would politely refuse stating that you have already made other plans, and let her know that you are willing to watch her kids if she plans with you in advance. That way you both are happy.
2007-02-21 07:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by lschue13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your conscience.
You can be selfish and do whatever it is that you want to do
OR from the other side, your sister can be selfish to leave you sad.
If your sister means so much to you then maybe you should consider doing her a favor or 2 or else you'll feel guilty. Is family worth over a day or 2 of fun?
2007-02-21 07:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be there for your sister. It sounds like your plans could be for any weekend and hers are out of town and probably more important. I guess you should ask yourself what would she do if the tables were turned.
2007-02-21 07:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by sweetiepiefg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what it's for in my opinion. Your trip is to spend time with your daughter... her trip could be just for fun. If it's just for fun I say your trip comes first, but if she's visiting a sick relative or something I say babysit for her.
2007-02-21 08:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always better to give then to receive.... so let your sister go out of town and something bigger and better will be returned to you..
2007-02-21 07:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 14 year old is old enough to understand a reschedule...rescheduling a trip is a lot harder to do.
2007-02-21 08:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your plans are more flexible than hers so let her have the sitter and spend time with your daughter another time.
2007-02-21 07:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by mylilangelcj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋