Im having some problems with my parents and my boyfriend. Im 25 now and we started dating when i was 20. its been off and on these years. the last that we had broken up we where living together. He had some issues that he is working on and wants to make things work out. He has said he was sorry for us breaking up a thousand times and really seams to be working in his problems. Anyway, my parents don't like him at all neither does my best friend and im having a hard time with this. it matters what they think but at the same time i dont care. weird i know. anyways is there some stories or advice that you could share to help me work some of this out. Thank you!!
2007-02-21 07:00:36 · 9 answers · asked by rain9439 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in that situation, mainly because I've vented about my bf to my parents and friends which I've learned to avoid because it just makes them hate the guy. I usually make up with him, and for some reason don't go on and on about the great things he does to my family and friends, so they still hate him.
What's worse was my bf did the same thing and his parents hated me because all they heard were the bad things I did. I think you should just make a very big effort to tell them about how hard he's trying, how much he cares, and how much you guys want it to work.
2007-02-21 07:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found it's best to NOT relate too much personal stuff even to good friends and family, especially if it's touchy stuff like relationship problems, because, since they love you, these family members and friends would have long memories about stuff that's hurtful to you. Even if you are way past a certain incident, they may not be. So, that being said, you shouldn't necessarily share the fact with them that you are interested in this guy again, until you and he sort thru alot of stuff and determine if the relationship is going to go anywhere. If and when you and he see long term plans in the works, you can broach the subject with your parents, and save some grief if you and he don't work things out.
2007-02-21 07:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a BF at one point that my parents and sister both hated. It turned out they were right. When I finally dumped him, they were relieved and I realized deep inside that I knew they were right all along, I just didn't want to admit it. I later met my husband who they all liked right away.
This guy has hurt you multiple times and they don't like him for that reason. They see the pattern that you don't really want to see and they don't want you hurt by this guy anymore. It might pay to start listening to them and to your own inner voice. Go back and read what you just wrote - it's been on and off all these years and he has said he is sorry a thousand times for breaking up with you, but he's done it multiple times anyway. He's not really all that sorry and you keep letting him get away with it.
Listen to your family and move on and look for someone who treats you better.
2007-02-21 07:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does not matter what your best friend and or parents want is about what makes you happy I'm in the same situation eventually my best friend and family stop talking to me now I'm starting to talk to my family again if it will never be the same as far as my relationship goes we are okay at times others we argue a lot but hey at the end we are together
2007-02-21 07:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i'm 17 weeks. it rather is toddler #2. we've a 7 year previous daughter. This toddler became planned. Our first wasn't we've been 20 while we had her and not married. we've been married for a splash over a year. We tried for 3 months, which became astounding via fact i became on depo for 7 years. only had a splash morning disease yet am nevertheless supper drained. looking forward to 2/a million, thats our extremely sound date to make certain the intercourse!
2016-11-24 22:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents hate my b/f also...makes life barely tolerable when we all have to do things together (like my daughter's b/day on Sunday).
Anyway, if you really love this guy, tell them you need their support...acknowledge that yes, he has done wrong in the past, but he is working on it now and trying to become a better person...tell them you need their support. They are probably just trying to "protect" you...
Good luck!!
2007-02-21 07:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Niffer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Every girl I have ever dated
either her parents didn't like me
or her friends
and we would stop trying just because
she wouldnt make her own opinion of me
its nice to be judged by people I dont even know
2007-02-21 07:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept what your parents think
2007-02-21 07:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met when we were in high school. We would go out for awhile, break up and then get back together shortly afterwards. After the last time we broke up, because of petty reasonings on my behalf, we stayed apart for a good chunk of time. Almost all of our friends were mutuial and I was being told by them that he was saying that I am hot and various other things. I went to him and told him that I wanted to get back together. We set some ground rules that time and got back together. At this point we were 17, just about to be 18 and graduating from high school. I had one friend that was supportive of our being together. I had many friends who were giving me s*** as well as my mother, whom I am very close to. We would go out with his friends from outside of school, because they were happy for us. When I would go out I would hear about it from my mom. It was nothing derogitory but it enough to make me sad. I confronted her about it and she pretty much told me that she did not like him. It made me really sad. But, I knew that I loved him and wanted to be with him. She felt as if he had alteriative motives but I knew otherwise. After we graduated from school, I was still living at home but paying rent to live there. I would have him come over and we would hang out in my room but my mother insisted that he be gone by 9:00pm. So, I abided. Everytime I f***** up it was blamed on him. About 6 months after we graduated, I found out that I was pregnant. I knew that if I kept it my father would have killed me. (That is a completley different story.) I chose to abort. My man was with me the whole way through. He and a couple of friends, obviously the ones that were his from outside school, were the only ones who knew. We stayed with a friend of his for a day or two till I went back home. I got into it with my mother about a month later. She brought up the time that I was gone and basically said "while you were gone having fun...". I broke down in tears and said that I was not having fun. Her exact words to me were "You were pregnant weren't you..." I told her and she got so mad at me! We decided that we needed to get out of our parent's houses and I found out that I really had no choice. I was to either move out or I had to move out into the country with my parents. We found an apartment but we needed a co-signer. I asked my mom and it was like fighting tooth and nail. She finally came around and did it for us because she knew that it would make me happy. I heard all about how if he hits me.. etc what to do. He had never laid a hand on me and I was not concerned. We ended up getting married, in civil court, a about 6 months later. My mother was the only one at our wedding. We have now been married for almost 4 years. Things have gotten better and she does care about him now. It took time and me basically telling everyone that I didn't care what they thought and I was going to prove them wrong. It was really hard but it came out to be okay in the end. Good luck and stay true to your heart.
2007-02-21 07:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋