should i cut my losses now?

Question

i've been in a mostly online relationship with a man now for over a year. i knew he had some odd ways, but he kept telling me he wanted to change. he is 50 years old, and takes care of his father, they share a house, but he dont have any relationship with him. he goes to work and spends the rest of the time in his room with the door shut. he even eats in there his take out food. he refuses to encourage a better relationship with his kids because he has a hearing problem and they dont speak loudly enough for him to hear. he also refuses to get a hearing aid too. i confronted him about this a few days ago and he says i dont understand him, and that my emails are all full of crap. i didnt expect this to happen when i metioned he call his daughter who is out of state on valentines day and i also suggested he take his dad out to eat. he said he would be happy if he never went out again. i thought i knew him, he makes me feel so wonderful when we are together, but now i'm wondering do i stay

Answer 1

sounds like he's got some serious issues. sorry hon, it would be best to cut your losses and move on, unless you're wanting to be a miserable hermit right alongside him.

Answer 2

I would say you are seeing the real thing now. He isn't what you expected at all.

You just got a good look at life with this guy. Sitting at home in the dark eating take out food in your room with some moody guy.

Not sure why you would do that to yourself. But, only you can decide if that is how you want to spend the rest of your life.

The guy sounds kinda creepy to me.