I called my dear friend this morning and her husband picked up the phone and he asked if I got disconnected. I was surprised but didn't think of anything so said no, I didn't call. Then, I got a hold of my friend she confessed that her ex called earlier and she told him it was me. Ok, I'm not upset that she's using my name, but I'm going to visit them soon and I feel awkward if the spouse tries to find out information from me. He knows his wife tells me EVERYTHING. Should I just not go?
2007-02-21 06:47:50 · 13 answers · asked by Speck Schnuck 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
tell your friend she put you in an awkward position and to please stop using you for an alibi. if he brings it up on your visit simply tell him you talk to her all the time on the phone and quickly change the subject.
2007-02-21 06:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has put you in a terrible position, but you already exposed her lie by telling her husband that it wasn't you that called. This is now between them. Don't mention it. If he interrogates you, stick to the truth. Why aren't you upset that she's using you to lie to her husband? If you go along with this, then you will have to come up with some excuse for lying to him about calling. Don't get involved in their marital disputes, and don't allow your friend to use you this way. Look down the road a little way, and you can see that this could be a disaster for you. The husband may blame you later, if he finds out the truth.
2007-02-21 07:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go. But if he ask you about it, you should tell him you don't want to get in the middle of their problems. You are a friend but you are not about to rat her out to her husband because he thinks you are going to tell. So it is something you shouldn't get involved. You should tell your friend that you are going to meet him and she should come along that way it will come out on the table with all of you. Put it this way you won't be stabbing her in the back. If your friend continues to lie you as a friend should let her know she is wrong what she is doing.
2007-02-21 07:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sugars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't lie to her husband, it will just make him resent you for any issues that come up between them. If he starts asking you questions that you don't feel comfortable asking you can always tell him to talk to her about it. Look at it this way, if it was your husband's ex calling him, would you want his friend to tell you the truth?
2007-02-21 06:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. Run for the hills now. Eventually your friend will go into a self-preservation mode and you will be caught in an uncomfortable, and depending on her husband, a dangerous predicament. Be careful.
2007-02-21 07:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if course you should go. You know friends have a tendancy to do this. My BFF, has her boyfriend hating me because she tells him shes out with me blah blah blah. It annoys me, but there our friends so hey! However, you did tell him the truth, you had no idea anything else was going on. I'm sure he probably took that up with her. Good luck! and yes go see your friend. And make sure to tell her to be more careful next time.
2007-02-21 06:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
chen,
What an awful predicament!
My take...there are issues between them that does not concern you. If you feel too awkward about the situation, explain that to your friend and give them a raincheck.
2007-02-21 06:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go. And if he brings it up, tell the truth. Don' t let her put you in the middle of their drama. AND if she gets mad at you for telling the truth, she's not the friend you thought you had.
2007-02-21 06:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by mochachreme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a real friend, then you will get the facts straight before you go and visit her. I'm sure that he isn't going to say anything to you about it... if he does... cover up for her... I'm sure she would do it for you.. LOL
2007-02-21 06:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
MAYBE YOU AND YOUR FRIEND CAN HAVE A CONVERSATION BEFORE YOU VISIT HER HOUSE OR ACCIDENTAL BUMP INTO HER HUSBAND. ANYWAY YOU NEED TO TELL HER NOT TO USE YOU ANYMORE. MAYBE USE A DISTINCT CUZ OR LONG LOST FRIEND OR CO-WORKER. NO ONE NEEDS DAMA THESE DAYS.
2007-02-21 07:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by WILLIAMS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋