i have been with my guy for about 9m. its been great & i love him so much but for me the sex just doesnt seem fun anymore and i find myself really bored during.its flusterating and i have tried to spice it up a bit but i feel like were some old married couple and its just not there anymore. is there any thing i can do....
2007-02-21 06:35:57 · 16 answers · asked by tonni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not unless he's willing to do something about it!
2007-02-21 06:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have counciled many women and men who say "the sex has gotten boring". In the end it usually turns out that the bored one is already sniffing around someone else.
So, is this really about the sex, or are you just tired of being in the relationship itself? Only you know the answer.
But, if you really want to make it work, then communicate. tell him what he can do to make things better for you. Get some books and try some of the positions. Share the book and giggle at the pictures.
You have to have fun.
2007-02-21 14:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress upp in something sexy and do a little striptease for him. Let him watch while you masturbate. Touch yourself all over and tell him how much you wish his hands were all over you right now but make sure they aren't though by tying him up first.
Then blindfold him and tease him with a feather, icecubes, hot wax (if his into that), different textures etc. You can drip chocolate syrup on him and lick it up. Even drip some on his member and clean it properly.
Give him bj but stop before he climax and start all over again. Tease him and make him beg for release. Then when he cant take it no more - jump him and give him the ride of his life.
2007-02-22 10:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Monty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're bored with sex and it's no longer fun obviously something is wrong or you wouldn't be asking for help. Define love and then ask yourself if you really are in love with him? Have you talked to him about it? Is he also bored? When you try to spice it up does he go along with it? It doesn't sound very promising for a lasting love relationship.
2007-02-21 14:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Hibbler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to make it more fun.... be seductive.... text him messages and make phone calls to him... tease him ... tell him dirty things .... and then you's will be both in such anticiapation and excited about the end of the day when you can finally touch each other and do it.
and you need to do new things ... new positions, toys, sex bored games etc
try it you might have fun!! and then he will never forget his awesome sex experiences with you
and
try different places ... in the bath , in the shower, in the lounge , outside , on the dryer or washing machine , maybe a public place
you wont be bored .... doing this , things will become thrilling and exciting and fun!!
good luck and have fun
2007-02-21 14:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be time to move beyond a little spice and head straight to the instructional videos. He needs to get better at giving you orgasms--right? If I can remember who made the video I learned from (and it helped a LOT), I'll post it. It was called sensual awakenings, but I doubt that is descriptive enough to help you find it. It focused mainly on massage and giving hand jobs to women, but once you can do that giving orgasms from sex is easy.
2007-02-21 14:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sex used to be fun, what has changed? Are you mad at him about anything? Are you still attracted to him? If you are still attracted to him, then I would bring it up to him and see if you can work on it. But--- if you aren't into him, then you shouldn't be with him. Sex isn't everything, but it is an important part of a relationship. Without the intimate physical part, you are just good friends.
2007-02-21 14:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by sophiagrace69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember what it was that attracted you in the first place. Do things spontaneously, do things in different ways, different places, dress up, dress down. Anything you want, just remember that you love each other and if he just isnt that good, then tell him what you want him to do. Make it a game or something.
2007-02-21 14:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you do it all the time take a breke just lay low for a while or have you talk to him about it some time talking can get you out of things you never thought of many people have gone with what you are going through it will work out
2007-02-21 14:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a normal marriage
2007-02-21 14:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to introduct sex toys into your bedroom - you get comfortable with them first (alone) and then invite him to either assist or watch. Relax its fun!
2007-02-21 14:48:03 · answer #11 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋