why does forever scare me??

Question

I'm in my 20's and want to get married someday but it scares me so much that I'm scared to let myself get into a serious relaionship and hold back on love. How can I just let go? Is anyone else like this? to me, marriage is forever, divorce not an option...i just want to love and let go of the fear

Answer 1

Forever is scary...unless you find the right person. Maybe this fear you feel is really just your heart's way of telling you that it doesn't feel right. When you meet the right person it will feel right and you will be able to just love and let go of the fear.

Answer 2

I understand exactly what you're saying. "Forever" scares me sometimes too. But I've learned that, the fear of me feeling that way is because I haven't found the "right-guy" yet. Once you find the person you are meant to be with, and Love... "forever" won't seem so bad. I admitt it is hard, trying to find a decent man, and be in a caring relationship, but you just have to be patient. I've been in relationships where I was the only one who even gave a damn about the whole thing. And it does worry me, because I don't want to be 30 years old, lonely, with no life. As women, we just have to pray on it... and believe that one day it will work out!
Good Luck

Answer 3

Fear is no excuse and a mighty flimsy explanation for a present behavior for a future outcome.

You are probably too young to get your logic in an acceptable order, but that fear is good since it is keeping you out of trouble.

Alas, those of us who lived past the ideologies of our teens and twenties now know that forever is very rare.

People change, he will change, and you will change. For all you know, he might be the one who would swear on forever 5 years from now and youd just be desperately wanting to cut loose and go another way. Lol

Answer 4

I love how people in their 20's say divorce is not an option. I used to think that too, but you really can't mean that, because you don't know what's going to happen in life. Granted, one doesn't get married thinking, 'well, if this doesn't work, I'll just get a divorce.' Letting go comes with maturity. Just live and go out, when you'll fall in love you'll know. You can't rush it.

Answer 5

you dont have to get married, just let things fall where they may. life is a tough game to play. we all want the money, love and everything else, but sometimes that just isnt possible. if that one day you have a b/f and you can gaze into his eyes knowing that he is the one, well that's all you need to know.

like they say, you have to fall off the bike a couple of times before you learn to ride.....having a b/f but not wanting anything more means that he just isnt the one and keep looking. im 28 and have never been married. so just see what cards are dealt and play your hand carefully.

Answer 6

It is scarey. When you really feel you are ready just close your eyes and jump in. You have just as much chance of success as the rest of us. I think we all go into marriage wanting and thinking it will last forever. Then life happens. Some survive the storms and some don't. Remember that saying " Nothing is certain... but Death and taxes" Its true.

Answer 7

It's natural to be confused about many things in life and a commitment is one of them. I suggest also talking to some happily married people, both men and women, and get a little input from them. If this doesn't remove your fears I suggest you get professional help. Good luck.

Answer 8

You should be scared. lol Forever is a BIG commitment and a little fear is healthy. Amen on the no divorce policy!

Answer 9

wait until you're more mature to get into a long term relationship. You're just young and haven't experienced life enough to understand how short it really is.

Answer 10

B/c you think that you might never get to do things that u love. And that you'll miss out.