I have a sexual relationship with this guy i know. I just found out that i am pregnant. We don't have too much in common should i tell him the baby is his or keep it to myself and break it off. I brought it up in conversation and i got the feeling he does't want any kids. What should i do some one please help me out?
2007-02-21 06:31:05 · 27 answers · asked by BBW 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have no chioce. you have to tell him. its his right to know! he deserves to know! tell him now! and then if he doesnt wanna be invovled then thats his decision. but he might wanna help you out .... are you going to keep the baby or not? you need to talk to him.
2007-02-21 06:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because it's still a decision both of you will have to come up with. He's either going to tell you he wants to be a part of the kids life or wants nothing to do with it, then it would be up to you if you want to really keep the baby or get an abortion. Because if you decide to keep the baby, there are some things that would be nice to know, like the guy's family history, etc for the baby's future appointments, or just in case something comes up. You never know, and maybe this'll be a lesson to you, but prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
2007-02-21 14:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldnt you tell him? It doesnt matter if he doesnt WANT kids. What ya'll were doing, just having sex for FUN, not being in a commited relationship, and you ending up pregnant, is not something you should face alone. Pregnancy OR raising this child, OR doing whatever you believe in (possible adoption or other methods). You both got in this mess together, and he should know that you expect him to be just as responsible as you are for taking care of and talking about this......... he's responsible too!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-21 14:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by it'sjustme79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really hard. this something you have to figure out that you feel is best for you. I had a friend who got pregnant by a guy that she new she would not be with for a long time. she never told him but terminated the pregnancy. so that is totally different. You could tell him and if he feels that he would like nothing to do with this then you are on your own like you would be if you didn't tell him. i wish you best of luck in whatever you choose.
2007-02-21 14:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him. Like it or not he is involved now. The two of you need to sit down and have a long talk about it. You need to fully weigh your options and the two of you need to make a decision. If you do not want to keep it he has some options as well. This is a ruff situation to be in and the two of you will work something out.
2007-02-21 14:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pug_the_invoker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. Even if he doesnt want to be involved, he has the right to know that he has helped make a child. And who knows, maybe he will want to be involved with this baby. If not, then you are in the same situation you would have been if you didnt tell him. Just give him the chance to decide for himself, dont choose for him.
2007-02-21 14:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by AZrunner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it's too late now, baby. Honesty is always best.....I'ts a tough situation and you need to let him know. You might still break it off.
Why are you having sex with someone you don't have much in common with anyway? This is why we are supposed to get married first. Good luck whatever happens.
2007-02-21 14:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he has a right to know. Hopefully he wont be an a$$ and will want to be a part of his child's life. Just because you two don't have a lot in common it still toke both of you to make this baby so it is both of your responsibility's
2007-02-21 14:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of course do what you think is right. But don't you think he'd want to know. Let him know, but also let him know that you're not telling him for financial support. You just thought it would be the right thing to do. If he freaks, oh well. He might just surprise you with his reaction. Either way, i'm sure you'll make the right decision. Good luck & Congrats!
2007-02-21 14:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no choice. you have to tell him. if u dont and u wait until ur child is like 2 years old, he wont believe its his child and u will have to go on the maury povich show to prove to him that he is the real father lol. and then he will hate you for good. so just save urself the hasstle from early and tell him straight up. and if he knew he didnt want to be a father, he should have used protection. so basically, both of u are responsible. good luck though.
2007-02-21 16:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by chanoah_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why it's a bad idea to have a sex buddy! did you learn anything? and of course you have to tell him because a year from now you're going to need somebody to help you take care of that baby. Good Luck. i hope everything works out.
2007-02-21 14:46:23 · answer #11 · answered by smadlersong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋