Should I put his mom's name first and dad's second.....his mom is helping us pay for the wedding and I am pretty sure his dad is not going to help at all???? he does not eve live in the same state???
2007-02-21 06:25:43 · 19 answers · asked by JenS12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, you place the fathers name first, even though he may not even attend! It is not just custom, but respect for his position and it shows respect for those marrying! If you do not, it shows disrespect to the bride and groom and is like a shot of criticism for the divorced couple! Just love the Mother-in-Law more for what you have to do. It is not showing disrespect for her; but respect for her! God bless, Earl
2007-02-21 06:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His mom first and his dad second. If they are remarried list the spouse also. Of course the brides parents come first then his parents. List both parents even if his dad can't help pay for the wedding. Don't stress over this as so many parents today are divorced. If you have a wedding planner she would know the correct etiquette for this. You could go to an ediquette site on the internet also.
2007-02-21 06:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the fathers name is listed first but now and days brides and grooms to be are doing things a little less traditional. For my wedding aqnnouncements and invitation, I put Together with their parents, Kristin ... and Ben .... announce their engagement or request the honor of your presence.....
If its an anoouncement for the newspaper you can put: You finace is the son of Mothers First and Last Name and Fathers First and Last Name or vise versa wgich ever way your fiance perfers.. since he is a guy he'll probably leave it up to you..
Good Luck and Congrats!!
Advice to the Bride to be: Do things the way you want them done even if it seems a bit untradional and RELAX. Im getting married this Saturday and I have not managed to relax yet :)
2007-02-21 07:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are skipping putting any parents names but we are paying for the whole weddings.
This website has some ideas about "divorce" wording.
2007-02-21 06:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is proper etiquette for this but I'm not sure what it is. I think you should word it however you feel most comfortable. And, men don't usually care about these things like women do, so the dad probably won't care if his name comes second on there.
2007-02-21 06:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are few ways to do it, depending on where you want your names to appear (for stylistic reasons).
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honor of your prescence
at the wedding of their daughter
Bride's Full Name
to Groom's Full Name,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents (mom)
and Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents (dad)
blah blah blah
Or you can list them all together at the front:
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents,
Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents (mom)
and Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents (dad)
requrest the honor of your prescence
at the wedding of their children
Bride's Full Name
Groom's Full Name
blah blah blah
If you want shorter and simpler, you could say this:
Bride and Groom,
together with their families,
request the honor of your presence
at their wedding
blah blah blah
2007-02-21 07:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put the son of Joe Doe & Jane Doe.You can put the Mother first, it's your wedding.There are several ways to word the invitations....
2007-02-21 08:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it doesn't have anything to do with who is paying for the wedding (you and your guy should be paying yourselves, anyway).
You could always do a generic:
The families of
Jane Doe
and
John Smith...
OR
Jane Doe and John Smith,
together with their parents,.....
OR
Jane Doe,
daughter of Frank and Linda Doe,
and
John Smith,
son of Joe Smith and Sue Black
request the honour of your presence....
Hope something helps....
2007-02-21 07:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of actually putting thier name on the invites you can word it.....
Brides Name & Grooms Name together with our parents would like you to join us in our celebration as we exchange marriage vows.....etc
2007-02-21 07:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out this site, it has some wording for divorced parents.
2007-02-21 06:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by mstigger_78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋