My family and friends have told me (the bride) to do a dollar dance. I have told them I don't really want to. They said that I should at least have a money tree, then. We are having around 50 guests (only family and about 6 extremely close friends), but it will be an expensive wedding at the Marriot. We can afford it and do not need this money to help "pay" for it. I have seen other questions about the money tree on here that have said if it looks expensive then having either of these looks really bad. Well, here are my questions: Are either of these bad to have at an elegant wedding? If I have a dollar dance, how do I dance with these people? We are not having any kids at our wedding. I don't like to fast dance, but I don't know that I would feel comfortable having his uncles' arms around me. It just seems like it would be weird and make me feel uncomfortable. Is this just nerves? Did you have a dollar dance and feel weird about it, but it turned out better thanyou thought?
2007-02-21 06:22:54 · 17 answers · asked by goaliegirl87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe I should have added this...their reason for wanting this is that we are both still college students...both of our families know this
2007-02-21 06:36:44 · update #1
The dollar dance is so much fun. I felt the same way before ,y wedding. You pick one slow song and then you and groom get paid for dances. It' s great when you look over and see your 65 year old granny slip your man a 20 and start dancing. My dollar dance turned into about $400.00. They don't just give you guys 1's and it's way more comfortable when both you are up there. I know it's uncomfortable, but you just got all beautiful and have been center of attention all day What's one more dance?
2007-02-21 06:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by linz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dollar dance is a slow dance. If you don't want to do it, then don't. I've only seen it done twice, and honestly both of those weddings were on the inexpensive side.
Don't do a money tree. That is so much more tacky than the dollar dance. At least guests get to spend time with you one-on-one with the dollar dance. They get nothing with the money tree.
2007-02-21 08:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the necessity of having a dollar dance or a money tree. Personally, I always thought that was kind of vulgar in the midst of something that seems so joyfully immaterial (I'm preaching, sorry!) At my sister's wedding, she placed a cream colored mail box on the gift table and guests filled it with whatever they wanted--cards, money, whatever. If your parents want the monetary element, they should be the first to put dollars and cards into the mailbox, and then the rest of the guests will get the hint, and it seems like a little less obtrusive way of getting the same end.
2007-02-21 06:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Meollo de la vida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! First off, your initial feeling that it's a bad idea is correct. Either one of those is going to cheapen your elegant reception. Since you can afford the wedding, what's the point of asking for more? In my opinion, even if you couldn't afford it, it's still unacceptable. Anyway, people are going to be put off by this..it just seems really greedy, and I don't think that's your intention at all. I rarely say this, but it is YOUR wedding, put your foot down and tell everyone it's not going to happen. The dollar dance actually makes me cringe. I for one would not want to slow dance with my uncles for a dollar! It's not "just nerves" as you said, it's your sense of good taste telling you not to do it!
2007-02-21 06:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable dancing with everyone, then do not do the dollar dance. I have never seen the money tree, but my take on those things is:
The guests have been to a bridal shower (got you a gift)
The guests are attending the wedding (with a gift)
NOW you want them to give you money to dance.
NO....not for me...a wedding is not an occasion to make money, it's an occasion to showcase the love of two people who are sharing it with their family and friends.
Do what you are comfortable with, and it is you and your fiance's wedding, not your family and friends. PERIOD!
2007-02-21 07:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, the greenback dance is cheesy. Why? through fact as a prevalent rule of etiquette, the hosts ought to under no circumstances ask her travellers for funds. travellers could be indignant that they are being nickled and dimed. That being pronounced, i'm Latina, and on a similar time as i do no longer agree that this is a factor of our "custom," this is although an exceptionally person-friendly wedding ceremony custom. What some compromise? you have got the greenback dance, yet announce that each and all of the proceeds won't flow to the couple, yet incredibly, flow in direction of a charity (in line with hazard a charity in the honour of of a deceased relatives member?). That way, travellers won't sense such as you're taking extra of their funds on your individual own use. whilst the DJ declares the dance, in line with hazard he can say some thing like this: "Up next is the greenback dance. Dance with the bride or groom for a greenback-- whoever earns the main funds gets the bragging rights of donning the pants in the relatives! All monies earned will flow in direction of the national Alzheimer's association in honor of the previous due Mr. John Smith." reliable good fortune, and ultimate desires!
2016-10-16 04:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have a dollar dance at your wedding if you don't want to. It's in poor taste and no where is says that you have to have one.
Having a first dance with your spouse is more than enough. You may add dad-daughter dance, but even so I think that is so outdated.
If you are not the dancing kind, skip the dancing altogether and choose a more contemporary reception.
Good luck
2007-02-21 06:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to not do anything that makes you uncomfortable. This is YOUR day, and you do what You want, not what everyone else wants!
If people want to give you money, they will do so in their cards. I'm in the middle of planning my own wedding, too.
I got a money tree at my bridal shower as a gift with money tied on it. I didn't need the money, but the gesture of the person who spent the time making it was appreciated.
2007-02-21 06:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anania M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both are tacky & look like a money is expected or even required. I really don't like the thought of selling dances either. Say no if you don't want them. People are going to give you cash as a wedding gift if they choose to.
2007-02-21 10:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember one thing.............. it is your day - do what makes you happy & only you. If you don't feel comfortable doing the dollar dance or the dollar tree then oppose the idea! Don't let other people decide how, when or what happens at YOUR wedding. Good luck and many happy wishes
2007-02-21 06:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋