well, its been 1 yr, sine i got out of a terriable relationship, however - i really loved him, and for some reason, even after giving myself all this time to find myself and all, Ive found myself, ive licked my wounds, and ive become a stronger person, however - I cant seem to move on
and everytime someone asks me out i cant seem to find a good enough reason to go for them, and once i am back home, I am constantly thinking of my ex
he was niot good to me, so i wont get back
but help plz
what do i do?? and how
plz help and advice
2007-02-21 06:13:24 · 18 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first... time will only heal your heart, whether it is a month or years. You dont need to jump into another relationship... be single, there is nothing wrong with that. You will start dating when you meet the right person, then it will feel right and your heart will let you move on. Love is the most powerful feeling and it isnt easy moving on or letting go... but sometimes things happen for reasons that we later understand. Dont let yourself get wrapped into thinking of your past, try to move on with your future and know that you did what was best... you are thinking of yourself now! Be happy and when you start feeling down give all your problems to God. Dont let him to continue to get in the way of your happiness...
2007-02-21 06:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the fact you still think about this person. The more you love someone, the longer it takes to get over that someone. And sometimes people are able to recover quicker that others.Everybody is diiferent. Take the time you need. One day the right guy will ask you out and you will say 'yes'.
That may come sooner than you think. As far as what to do?
Continue living your life, you are on the right track.
2007-02-21 14:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we shut down emotionally to keep from getting on with life. We become fearfully of getting to know some one else. Rejection hurts. Love yourself. Place less emphasis on the opinions of others. Most importantly God will not put on you more than you can bare.
Have a friend that would not let go her ex. All her conversation was about him. Kept her from accepting the true. That the guy had been a bad relationship that needed to end. She spent so much money on him. She equated his accepted the money as love.
2007-02-21 14:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by learning 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he could of done some sort of love spell on you? I've heard of that happening. I can't think of another reason why you'd still be hung up on a guy who wasn't nice to you.
Or maybe he brainwashed you too hard. Was he abusive? How long was the relationship? I find abused women find it hard to get over him because he made you think you can never do better and you start to believe it. Well, he's gone and you can always do better.
You have to force yourself to go out, experience other guys. A date won't hurt. Just think of it as "gaining some new experiences". Don't put pressure on yourself, just have fun, socialize, get yourself out there, not so that you can find a new man, but so you can continue to grow.
2007-02-21 14:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest two things:
1) Forgive your ex. For everything. This will free your mind up tremendously.
2) Give yourself more time. Perhaps 1 year isn't enough. Invest some more time in yourself - do your hobbies, travel, whatever. Then try the dating scene later on.
2007-02-21 14:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Steven D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with someone that wasn't a good man, and after we broke up it took me about 3 years to get over him. I did date in the mean time, but everyone gets over their exes at different rates. You need to get out and enjoy life, so you might think about him, I did, but that didn't stop me from going to parties, or hanging out with friends. I dated people and then after awhile I stopped thinking about my ex as much, and in time I was able to look back and think how awful he really was and how stupid I was to hang on for that long. You will get over him in your own time, and don't let people say "you should be over him by now", "you deserve better" Which you do deserve better, and as long as you keep your heart and eyes open then you will meet that better.
2007-02-21 14:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find something in him that would make you hate him and never think if him again. Like an occasion when he cheated on you or hurt you. No on is perfect and by understanding this you would realize that there is always someone out there for you
2007-02-21 14:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by Bluebird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i went through the same situation 1yr ago...i got over him by making myself stronger and u know watching him move on away from me made me realize that ya it was time for me to move on and get over him...u can do it just be positve...good luck.
Best of Wishes!!!
2007-02-21 14:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by J[o]a[N]n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is further evidence that time does heal, but not all the way, you still have scars from the relationship. I'm sorry but no words that i can type are going to help you move on. This is something your going to have to do on your own, when ever you are ready i wish i could fix this but i know i can't, I'm sorry.
2007-02-21 14:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are probably comparing him to others. It took me 2 years to get over 1 of my ex's. Only time will tell. It really sucks but that's the truth of it.
2007-02-21 14:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by whatever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋