I need help with my confidence??

Question

Since I was born, I have always been a nervous unconfident child. From crying to get out of going to nursrey till now, I am still the same old shakey girl with no confidence what so ever. I can't peform on stage because I shake to much even though I'd probably enjoy it. I need help to give it a boost. I am already seeing a counsellor but she just helps me with other problems. I am really worried about moving to highschool next year, if I'm like this at middle school in the highest year imagiane what I will be like in high school being in the youngest year!
I just need some advice tips and maybe some activities to do to give it a boost. please help :(

Answer 1

I can help you with your stage fright. Keep on going up stage and eventually it Will stop. Face your fear. The reason why I am saying this is because I use to have stage fright now I no longer have it because I kept on going up stage and facing my fear.Also sometimes you have a little fear when up stage and that's cool if your doing something big up there.
Lastly I am in the same grade as you and it worked for me.

Answer 2

Smile more. You are about to start into some of the best times in your life. I know you've heard that before, but it really is true. ALL people are nervous, and self-conscious about themselves, their appearence, etc., and if you can realize that it isnt just you, it should help. If you want to learn to be able to speak in front of people, or be more comfortable around people, try taking a public speaking course. They should offer them for high school. If you cant do that, or want another option, try getting a job at the local grocery store, or anywhere that you would need to work on your communication skills. They really do help to have, and becoming more confident in yourself and your ability to be around, and speak to others will help you out in the future, NO MATTER WHAT YOU DECIDE TO DO. Sports have also done a lot for people, as far as buliding confidence and learning people skills. You dont have to be the best out there, or even be on the high school team, but if you try, go out there, and meet new people, what can it hurt? Please dont feel like there is something wrong with you. Like i said, everyone goes through this around this time in their lives. Youll Be JUST FINE. :)

Answer 3

I was just like you at your age.
Try doing some volunteer work. Helping others makes us feel better about ourselves.
Stress your accomplishments and add to the list. Don't dwell on the "failures". They are over and done with, and you can't change them.
Do talk to your counselor about this issue too. She may have some other ideas.
One of the hardest things is life is to learn to love and respect ourselves. Remember, the tough times make us stronger people, better able to appreciate the little things in life that are really the most valuable: health, for example.
Sometimes we have to "take a leap of faith"--- try something new even though it scares you. Keep smiling even when you are scared. In time, the fear lets up and the smile comes naturally.

Answer 4

I don't think there is a quick fix. I think lack of confidence can be overcome in time and with patience. Learning confidence ( at least this worked for me) takes time and often means behaving in a way that feels uncomfortable. Its about behaving in a confident way even when feeling unconfident. Try to imagine how you would feel as a confident person, picture how you would behave, how you would be seen by others, how being confident would change your life. if you can do that you are halfway there. try to behave confidently in small ways to begin with and practise doing things in a confident way. each thing you do will be a small victory and even though it can feel strange, eventually with time it will become second nature. I hope this helps and i wish you well. I know what its like to be without confidence.

Answer 5

Join in group activities that will encourage you to be yourself like Girl Guides, dance classes or even the local youth club. Have fun with your mates and enjoy your life. Don't be worrying about what you don't like or can't do. Find something that you do like and can do and concentrate on that. Build up your confidence with activities you enjoy and you might just surprise yourself.

Joining in group activities might also help you settle at high school because you will meet older people who will be familiar faces when you get there.

Answer 6

its hard to get over the thoughts and fears as a child, they can manifest themselves in other ways and its often the fear of being nervous that actually physically makes us nervous. Its not written in stone that you should feel this way forever and it is easy to change the thought process. I know this may sound strange, but if you took up something that makes you physically strong, eg; running, or swimming, or check your local leisure centre for some other ideas. Imagine if you were a runner, building strong legs and body and your heart racing, listening to good music on some headphones, and feeling determined, it can make such a difference to the way you feel, decreasing stress levels and just having fun.xx

Answer 7

When i was younger my parents never got me involved in any clubs or anything , now im not saying my low self esteem is their fault but maybe if they hadda got me involved it woulda been helpful towards building my self esteem.I acually admire that you are seeing a counsellor im too scared to even tell anyone of my depression.I wish i could give you advice but until i myself find help and an escape then theres nothing i can say but , others feel the same way.

Answer 8

Middle School is the worst. I hated middle school with such a passion. High School is exciting because you finally start figuring yourself out more, which makes you more confident. Just give it time and try not to worry about anything. Easy-going is a great attitude to develop.

Answer 9

I could relate with u before reading this book called "Keys to Positive Thinking by Napolean Hill". It's an awesome book, it has given me a lot of confidence and i am sure after reading this book u will feel the same.

cheers,

Answer 10

Confidence comes naturally with competence. When you feel good about yourself and your abilities, you willl naturally exude it. To feel good about yourself, you have to have a proven track record of setting goals and achieving them.

You're at a very anxious time of your life. How you feel now is not atypical. As hard as it is, try not to be so hard on yourself, and to take a third person view of your life when you feel particularly nervous. At the same time, I would work on developing hobbies, skills and interests, things that help you really grow as a person.