I really messed up with my Girlfriend. I was a jerk and was not very sensitive to her feeling and needs. I have asked for her forgivness and told her what an idiot I am. She now wants space. Do I really just leave her alone till she comes to me, or do I give her some space but still try to be there for her and call her? I really need some help.
2007-02-21 06:02:49 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs her space so give it to her. Be there for her and even call her. But, don't call her 50 times a day! Just call her and let her know you are still interested but don't try to rush her in sorting things out! Good Luck!!
2007-02-21 06:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a girl, but I can tell you... when a girl says she wants space respect it, unless you never want that space to close. The best thing you can do is back off. As you mentioned you already made one mistake by not respecting her, don't do it again.
As a married guy I can tell you. Women do not make sense to many of us men. Watch the movie "The Breakup" and you'll see exactly what I mean. If you don't' think you understand what a woman wants tell her to speak to you as she would a 2 year old.
If you want to have any hope of salvaging the relationship follow her instructions to the letter. Let her call you. Once she cools off she will probably call you.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 06:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry to say but it seems that you messed up good this time. Asking for space means she needs time to sort things out in her head. She wants to make sure that being with you is really good for her. Some pointers for you are: Just leave her alone, dont call, but when you see her give her a good smile and some doggie eyes. This will tell her that you still care about her, but respect her enough to give her what she wants. Dont talk to other girls, and dont be see with them alone. Write her a nice letter saying how sorry you are, and that you wish you didn't do what ever you did. Explane to her your feelings, and then tell her that you are their for her if ever she needs you. Dont be clingy, and dont call her a thousand times. She just wants time to think things over. Good Luck you you.
2007-02-21 06:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good questions, sometimes the "I need space" request is actually a test. If she is young or insecure, she might expect you to call her anyway so that she can feel assured that you really care about her. Personally when I tell a guy I need space, I find it really irritating if they bug me anyway. You know her best - what does your gut instinct tell you? If you're not sure, you can always send her an email or letter just saying,"I am respecting your need for space, but I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. Can't wait to hear from you."
2007-02-21 06:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes clingy and do really think you will change this time cuz if you really belive that you have to prove it to her but give her space yet be there an example would be before she arrives at work or what ever she does in the morning even if it's nothing pay some one to get her a coffe don't be there though thats clingy but if you send her the coffe with a Good Morning kinda thing that is sweet and romantic yet not clingy.
2007-02-21 06:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the space...but let her know that you are doing it because of her request and not because you want to be away from her and tell her you will be there if she needs you..just to call..every few days or once a week, I'd call her to let her know that you are thinking of her and that your still "here" if she needs to talk and again how sorry you are for being a jerk..good luck
2007-02-21 06:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and be there for her when she wants to talk. Don't always say I was being an idiot, jerk, blah blah blah and saying sorry sorry sorry. It gets really old after a while but Show her you can be a great guy and that you really do care about her.
surprise her with something, flowers, a romantic dinner, something and let her talk about what she wants now always you. that shows home much you care. be there for her when she needs it. no matter what
Good luck
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2007-02-21 06:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by lilmisspearson13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is what you do. You want to keep calling her and being there for her but if she keeps saying "leave me alone i need my space" then you give it to her. You only give it to her for like a couple of days maybe even a week or 2 but no longer then that. Keep telling her that you love her and keep being there for her whenever possible. Don't worry when she is ready you will know!
2007-02-21 06:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by hottiewatchout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space, but not completely, otherwise she might think you just don't care anymore. Don't come over to her place but rather, send her gifts (they don't have to be huge, just thoughtful) to show you really are sorry and want it to work out.
Send her a "sorry" card, send her a single flower, send her something that made you think of her. Get creative, make a cd and send it, put a pic of you and her in a card and send it. Stay away, but bombard her with gifts. What girl wouldn't like that? I know I would!
Don't call her, but let her know in the card that she can call you when she chooses. Only communicate with gifts! That will rock her world *nods*.
2007-02-21 06:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave her alone and wait.its a nono.just don't appear to her as often as before...she did ask for some space did she not?
say every 3 days or even more, get her some stuff that she loves and have them sent over... simply to remind her that you respect her and her decisions and though you are giving her her space,you still care and love her and will always be there for her.get her things that you know she will smile after knowing it was frm you..like a handmade stuff or something..think out of the box!yesh, you gotta put in lots of effort..but its worth it rite?and oh yes, don't forget to hint that you did not forget whatever you did and will always be sorry abt it..good luck.:)
2007-02-21 06:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋