My boyfriend and I have been together 1.5 years and I love him with all my heart. He's my bestfriend, my everything. Things are great for both of us besides the fact that our religeous differences are going to tear us apart. He is an active christian, goes to church ever sunday, and wants to involve himself more in the church. I'm not sure what I am, I believe in god, I believe I am doing right by Him, I pray for guidence and thanks, I guess I just don't like the social aspect of organized religion or the politics. I'd rather just continue what I'm doing and not goto church. I don't mind that he goes on sunday, but he minds that I don't. I think I'd be uncomfortable with him being so involved in the church if he decides to involve himself more. Is there anyone who made it through similar differences? What can I do? I don't want to lose what we have, I love him so much and its killing me to think about losing him but I don't want to change things that I am happy with, I like who I am.
2007-02-21 05:58:24 · 8 answers · asked by Vanessa 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just don't get it though, why can I not have a relationship with god from home? Why must a goto church to have this? I don't think that's right and I don't think that is something the Lord required in order for you to be a "good christian".
2007-02-21 06:31:27 · update #1
You will like yourself even more if you stopped sitting on the fence and accepted the fact that God is real and He does exist. And don't use the "social aspect of organized religion or the (it's ) politics" as an excuse to not get involved. That's just PEOPLE. And the relationship you would have would be with God first, and people secondary. You'd understand more of our human failings and not hold God accountable for those failings. You'd also have your eyes opened to see how God sees us - through the eyes of love. Our "job" as Christians is to LOVE our fellowman, Christian or not, and to leave the judging to God. We are NOT to judge; we are to care enough for our fellowman that we are concerned when he/she falls into sin, and to bring them back to a less sinful life - back into the fold with God. And you have, not doubt, noticed that your boyfriend is special in the way he is about you, he treats you with more respect, love and honor than other guys - that is because he is Christian, and being Christian DOES make a difference in our behaviors toward one another. If we are Christian, if we are Christ-like, then we are suppose to conduct ourselves as Christ and have love, patience and compassion more than the regular, secular person.
You are afraid that you will "change" in such a way that you will be a negative-different if you were to become Christian. You are afraid that you will cut out too many things that you now enjoy. Here's the news: Once you become a Christian, those things really won't matter anymore, and you will not miss them. You will be happier and more content and peaceful within yourself. You will be stronger and more open and loving toward others. You will see life brighter, less tied down to earthly things, and your love for your boyfriend will escalate to new heights. You will love him deeper and in new ways. You will also be able to bond with him deeper and understand him more and be willing to do things for him - be less prideful, but full of joy to do those things for him, never feeling that you are giving up your identity.
Give Christ a try. He loves you, and he wants you to have a life with your boyfriend on a much more deeper and permanent level. Take that step. Don't be afraid. Learn to put God as the head of your relationship with your boyfriend and all other things WILL fall into place. Trust me. I've been there!!!
God Bless you both!
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2007-02-21 06:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proverbs 18:1 says that the one isolating himself will seek his own selfish longing. The reason we go to religious meetings to gather with the body of Christians who are there is for mutual encouragement, one to the other. Perhaps, you are strong and do not need anyone else but certainly someone there needs you.
2007-02-21 07:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, you have a religion, its called "Me". You are in charge of what is right and wrong, dependent, I guess on how you feel. When you come to that point in your life, where you are faced with a moral problem, you will have to decide. If you are your own pope, there is no higher authority. Your boyfriend is not so comfortable being the last word on moral issues.
2007-02-21 06:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by tsnyunt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His faith is obviously a big part of who he is. Maybe you don't love him as much as you love the idea of the relationship. His faith makes up a part of his character which is disturbing you.To change someone is impossible. We are who we are. We can only change circumstances. And for the changes to work both have to agree, or someone has to compromise. Hope you make the right decision.
2007-02-21 06:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by martha d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you didn't say what church, it is not possible to give you good advice. Some churches are not good ones, some are. You sound like you just don't care for the particular church your fellow likes. Sorry I couldn't help. Good luck.
2007-02-21 06:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by hillbilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what is evil about organized religion. Some "holy man" decides that he knows what God wants and imposes it on willing followers. These followers, in turn and with encouragement, try to enforce their beliefs on others, willing or not.
Thus wars, the fight against gay marriages, the crusades, the judgement of others, etc.
2007-02-21 06:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE READ THIS!!! faith is a personal thing. your relationship w/ god should be fine w/ him. DONT CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS JUST FOR HIM. ITLL NEVER WORK THAT WAY. he should be happy u r at least a christian. continue 2 like who u are. tell him that. if u r truly meant to be, he will respect u. a relationship cannot be built w/ 1 always bending 2 the will of the other, especially on something this important & personal. PLEASE REMEMBER THAT. dont lose who u are.
2007-02-21 09:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by vince 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Submit to your husband
2007-02-21 06:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tribble Macher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋