I have had my ups and downs with this guy for 2years. We have ahd a very unhealthy relationship between his 3 baby mama's and my flirting. I thought i loved him, he so down to eartha dn understanding and sex is great!! but for some reason i was never secure with our relationship. I can't find a way not to call him or text him because it's so hard for me to let him go, but i know we both have to move on!! Please help me...im heartbroken
2007-02-21 05:51:14 · 11 answers · asked by MAMA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey stop hanging on to this man for your security blanket. You dont seem to want to be alone. If you want your life to go down in a blaze then stay with him and his 3 different baby mama's. If you want peace in your life then leave this guy alone. How is he going to provide for you and all of his money is gonna go to child support any way???? Think about it.
2007-02-21 05:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The process of closure in a relationship depends upon both parties wanting to sever the ties that bound them. The longer you take the more it will hurt. The relationship does not work anymore, probably has not for a long time. There is no easy way to endure this, but consider the weight that will be lifted from you. If there were a painless way, I would surely tell you. Healing is a spiritual process where you reclaim your true self as a good person. You re-connect to your self-worth, your integrity and your desire to love and be loved. You ultimately grow and become a more complete person.
2007-02-21 14:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to let go is to let go. Period. Don't call him, don't text him don't see him. You CAN do it, but not until you really honestly WANT to. I was in the same situation about 2 years ago - on and off with a man that I was SOOOO in love with, but his idea of our relationship was very different from mine and what I wanted it to be. He strung me along (code for I was pathetic and needy and took whatever I could get) until finally I couldn't take it anymore. It hurt like HELL but I resolved myself to move on. I didn't call him, refused to see him or even speak to him. No calls, no texts, no emails, no IMs, nada. Eventually he moved away (which honestly helped a lot). Now I have a man who loves and adores me and more importantly WANTS me. We are getting married this September. It can be done - but it has to be done in YOUR time, don't let anyone else tell you to "just get over him". Take it one day at a time and the pain will get less and less. Good luck sweetie.
2007-02-21 13:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that stands out in everything you said :
"and my flirting".
That says everything about what you really feel - even if you are not willing to admit it. You are not committed to the relationship if you are flirting.
Just tell him the truth - you are not ready to settle down and be with just one person right now. Then leave and don't look back.
You are going to hurt him no matter what - so don't drag it out. You are doing him a favor. Your leaving will give him a chance to find someone that really loves him and wants the relationship you can't give him.
2007-02-21 13:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like we both have the same drama going on! But I feel what your saying and really there is no easy way to let go. You need to take it one day at a time and find something to keep you busy. If you have kids put your attention on them. Read books and hope to hell you don't get horny! After three days I am all over him just for the SEX! My downfall. But good luck to you because I know you will need it! Let me know how it goes!
2007-02-21 13:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by notoldjustwise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER do anything against ur conscience.If it says NO then its NO for sure.Remember one thing people who r supposed to stay with u in life, stay with u watever happens.But if the person isnt for u,then however much u try to maintain relationship, it wont last long.Break the news to him in person.Try to reason him out.Be calm when talking with him.Intially u will miss him but a little later u will realize that u hav broken up for good.
2007-02-21 13:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by K P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop thinking about it, you have to move on. Yeah you had fun but you also got hurt alot during this relationship. You need someone new, someone fresh and you will see how much better you will feel. So just dont text him, dont call him. Just forget about him, its not worth going into it again when you know you will get hurt in the end.
2007-02-21 13:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it. ask god to give you the strength to move on. When it comes down to it, thats all you have left, and i promise it's can be so easy if you give control over to the big guy. Just know things happen for a reason...and just let things happen rather than make them happen for yourself. GOD has plans you could never even begin to think about.
2007-02-21 13:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that there is SOMEONE out there for you. So why waste your time on an already failing relationship? Once I realized this, and left the loser I was with.... I found true lasting happiness. Good luck
2007-02-21 13:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need a vacation, mabye you two just need to take a break for awhile and see if you are better of or not
2007-02-21 13:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by TaylorC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋