and i really mean none. ever since i had kids (none of the people that were my friends had any) i havent been able to make friends...There are girls that i work with that i joke around with in the office...but they arent people i would want to hang out with outside of work.
where can an adult go to make friends?
i mean, it isnt like i would even have time to hang out...i work 12 hr days 5 days/wk...and when i am not working i am trying to spend time with my kids (i have 3...a 5 yr old 4 yr old and 2 yr old)
2007-02-21 05:46:31 · 17 answers · asked by Tissa 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What a relief to know I am not alone. Since my daughter was born, it felt as if I was diagnosed with the most contagious disease. All my friends disappeared. My baby sitter doesn't work after hours/on weekends except in an emergency. My friends, mostly married couples, want to go out around the time when my baby goes to bed and we can't join them. We asked them to change their plans to go out an hour earlier and the didn't (which REALLY upset me) They feel we are boring and they don't get the fact that I don't see any reason to take my daughter out when it is 10 degrees and windy just to have dinner. Well, they don't have any kids and don't know that when kids get sick, parents suffer more. My work schedule is like yours and I do prefer to spend the time I am not working with my family/baby. The only time I get to write on yahoo is at work.
Sorry! I don't want to turn your question into mine! :) Let me know if you get any good answers.
2007-02-21 08:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Elliem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I probably don't have the best answer for you; I'm in the same situation. Most of my female friends aren't married yet and don't have children so they enjoy a completely different lifestyle than I do and quite often do not include me in their plans. My baby just turned a year and some of them haven't even seen him yet.
Somehow my husband has retained more friendships and I have recently found out that one of our male friend's girlfriend is also a friendless parent. She and I hit it off over the past weekend and are planning some movie nights where she can bring over her 5 yr. old son and once he and my baby are asleep, we can crack open a bottle of wine & watch girly movies or maybe do a poker night w/the guys...some sort of "adult" time.
I think the key to making new friends is through your kids. Get them involved in sports or clubs or classes and then make friends with the other lonely moms. There are apparently a few of us out there!!
2007-02-21 06:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by CJ'sMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with other posters - the best way to enjoy your time with your children and have friends too is to find some activity, club, group, class, etc. to do with your children where you will meet other parents and kids. The parents will obviously have things in common with you - they are also parents of children around the same ages as yours - and the kids will enjoy doing an activity with you and making new friends. Once you meet new people you can invite them over to your house or to the zoo, dinner, play dates at the park, etc. There are other parents with young children just like you who are waiting to make friends - you just have to get out and be at the right place and meet. Join the Y for a swim class, or find a local children's art course, etc. Do you go to a church? Enroll the kids in Sunday School and go a little early to pick them up - chat with the other parents who are waiting - volunteer at their school/day care/church. Good Luck and Have Fun!
2007-02-21 10:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by mmct21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you had enough time to go on yahoo and write that you have no friends ... so you should have a few minutes a day to at least talk on the phone. my friends all had kids before i did and now that i'm pregnant i feel closer to them. i call them on the phone all the time even though we never seem to hang out. even that will make you feel more valued and give you a good morality boost. don't expect yourself to be tied up in a social life ... you have kids and a job like you said ... and you're not the only one out there either. i meet a lot of other wives in the military who are just looking for a nice friend to connect with. you'll meet someone trust me
2007-02-21 06:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't NEED physical friends. You can talk to all of us on yahoo answers! But if you want to make some friends, do some weekend activities! Take your kids to the park and sit on the bench with the other moms. Make friends with your kid's friend's moms. Join an art class that meets on a weekend. Try to put yourself out there, and good luck!
2007-02-21 06:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take my 2 1/2 yr old step-daughter to ECFE classes for mixed ages. You could try something like that. Find other moms so you can spend time with your kids and your age at the same time.
2007-02-21 06:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could join any club swimming, pool table or any other according to your hobbies. I am sure you will find some good friend. But do not hurry to tell all of your secretes suddenly. You need to find out about the person you will make friend. You know the package of friendship comes with good and bad together. So do not get exited if you find a friend.
Good Luck Lady
2007-02-21 05:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always difficult with young kids and working.
But try to make friends at work because that is an easy place to start.
When you have time with your kids, take them to a playground near you.
Talk to other parents their with there kids.
Find out if there is a usual time that they come there, then arrange to be there then as well.
From there you can get them to come to your house for coffee with their kids on rainy days. etc.
Friendships don't come and grab you, you have to grab them and work at it.
2007-02-21 06:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by bob shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your children are in school or day care, you may have the opportunity to meet other children's parents. This may be a way to meet people who share interests that are similar (like child-rearing!)
Best of luck!
2007-02-21 05:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm my acceptable acquaintances sure, yet even notwithstanding i love the ladies I dangle out with, I wouldn't completely trust them. It sounds terrible yet i comprehend for a shown truth that they from time to time gossip about one yet another. both way is say I absolutely have some acquaintances who're both honest climate acquaintances and some who're like sisters to me.
2016-12-04 11:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by binford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋