There is a special someone that i have known since 1993. We had about years of gap until 1999 that we saw each other again and began our friendship again. We dated in 2000 and after a year got engaged. We were so happy together. I loved him so much and he loved me too. I ended the relationship at the end of 2001 and always looked back hoping to end up with him. I was young and made a mistake but then i felt it was the right thing to do for some reason. We didnt see each other for a couple of years and then we started talking in the year 2003-2002 He would call me once and then wouldnt hear from him after two months and it was like that on and off till now. Well, he eventually comes and visits too. My feelings for him are strong and even though its been almost 7 years i still feel that i love him. I just found out this year that he is married (through a phone call from his wife) and i felt my heart break. He said he didnt tell anyone when i confronted him... that it happened.
2007-02-21 05:45:22 · 14 answers · asked by ahuga 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I realized we were just friends and that i couldnt just play this part of a jealous friend so i backed off and gave him his space. I finally talked to him and we hung out and he told me that they have been going through a divorce for awhile and that she called me when they were separated. He lives alone and is not with her anymore waiting for the divorce to be final. He has two kids. I love this guy and last weekend we hung out he kissed me and he said to me that he felt that he could talk to me. i felt special to hear it because i saw that he was sincere. He is holding his pain inside and eventually i know he will be open with me. I am trying hard to not call him and see him... but its hard. i am doing it for him and also for me. I dont want him to be pressured to being with me and i want to protect myself. BUT i have this feeling inside and this question mark to find out if he has thought about me all these years like i have.
2007-02-21 05:50:51 · update #1
He told me that he wanted to make love to me but that he couldnt because he didnt want to hurt me. he is thinking about me right? About my feelings... what does that mean? He said that now that i know where he lives his doors are open for me anytime... what does that mean? when we were hanging out he hold me.. does that mean anything? I dont want to feel like a re-bound so the reason for the space but i have been waiting for this moment for years now and finally its here. I dont want to keep my hopes up but its hard. it was very special being in his arms for that little bit of time.
2007-02-21 05:54:16 · update #2
It is obvious that your guy friend is married and it is sad that you had to find out that way but atleast you know what you are up against. You did what you felt you had to do, but because you and him rarely talk then you just need to face the facts that what happened between you and him are no more and that despite what you feel it won't work because he is married. It would not be wise to be seeing him behind his wife's back, you don't want to get into the middle of something you can not get out of. Take it as a lesson that you can use in another relationship, you and him could be just friends and nothing more if he will agree to it but other then that there is nothing else that you can do. It did not work out and so you need to move on.
2007-02-21 05:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean can you be happy with him? You left him when you were engaged, he is married and now you want to get with him?
My advice would be to walk away and move on, like he did. He didn't tell you he was married because he wanted 'something' from you and have his wife too. Is that who you want to be with? Maybe you two had a chance at something special when you were engaged, but that time is over now. Sometimes things have to all come together at the right time for things to work. That time has passed. Time to move on.
2007-02-21 13:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee....!!
I know you must be heart broken, BUT this isn't something that you need to cry about. If you are willing to fall into his web of lies..go ahead.... it's only your life. However as a fellow female I am very upset and humiliated by this guy's unacceptable actions towards you.
2007-02-21 13:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of this.
I know you loved him. You must go on. The love that you shared will always be in your memories. I have a special love memory and it makes me happy when I am sad. Turn your heart ache into something enjoy with memories.
2007-02-21 13:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by JLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your first gut instict. You let him go so many times before. When you find that one true love- it hits you like a ton of bricks and you never let it go. I'm sure you love him, but is it true love. Also he's married, don't mess with that. When you find yours and some girl tries to take that away- you'd kick her ***.
2007-02-21 13:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by linz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if he is married then no you will not be happy with him if he is not married and he still has the same feelings he had for then then yes you could be happy with him
2007-02-21 13:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by lilone20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jokes like this belong in the entertainment section.
2007-02-21 13:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aawwww that was heart breaking. Well, you know what you should do now, let it burn and move on girl
2007-02-21 13:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Move On its looking like youy guys have no futer together he is just using you so you have to move on!!!!
2007-02-21 13:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Hummm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married. Move on. Forget him.
2007-02-21 13:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋