I will have 5 bridesmaids but we cant figure out who could be his groomsmen. He will have only 3 groomsmen & I want to have the same number of people on both sides. I dont have any really close guy friends that I would want to be on his side. And both of my young brothers will be ushers so what should I do?
2007-02-21 05:43:19 · 13 answers · asked by She is Beautiful! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have talked to him & he also wants to have an even number of people too so yall stop being so mean! Im not a stuck up brat that wants every thing perfect. I am a small town girl who doesnt have alot of money for a wedding and want to have a nice one! Its a one time thing & i want it exactly how I want it if I can so please just give me ideas instead of being mean...
2007-02-21 06:11:45 · update #1
I had the same problem for my wedding. I had four girls and he had two guys. We pondered the idea of having each guy escort two women down, but then we thought it would look weird. We ended up selecting a cousin of mine that I was really close to and he picked a co-worker from work, in addition to his two childhood friends. I understand your need to want everything even, it makes the photo and planning process a lot easier. However, you want to make sure that the people in your wedding party are important to you and not a random filler. How close is he to his dad, because I have seen many weddings where the groom has his father stand you there with him. Not matter what you decide, do what is right for you and don't worry about what anyone else thinks!
2007-02-21 06:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by rbyslippers83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sakes... you do NOT need the same number.
What YOU want should be to allow him to have the groomsmen than he wants, not some need to have symmetry.
There are several things you can do to deal with the imbalance. For example, don't require that the bridesmaids stand on YOUR side and the groomsmen stand on HIS. Mix 'em up. With 5 women and 3 men, have 4 people stand on each side. 3 women on your side, 2 on his. 1 man on your side. 2 on his.
Like that.
During recessional, let 2 of them take 2 women each (it may seem sexist, but it's a matter of math) and then pair off the other 2.
2007-02-21 05:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either remove two bridesmaids or promote your brothers from ushers to Jr. groomsmen. You can appoint the child of a family member or friend to be ushers. Good luck.
2007-02-21 05:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have the same amount. Why don't you have your brothers still be ushers but have them walk your two bridemaids without groomsmen. My girls walked down the aisle by themselves, so you really only have to worry about them walking after the ceremony. It is only a 2 person difference, it will look fine! It won't be as special for your fiance if he has to choose 2 random people, just so it will be equal.
2007-02-21 05:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by KP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem. He has come up with someone for the Best Man (his best friend) and one groomsman (his sister's husband-his brother in law)...I just cut mine down to a maid of honor and bridesmaid. The idea about having family members do it will work, but only if they are close. If not, I would just scratch this idea and have the numbers uneven.
2007-02-21 05:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by goaliegirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about his father?
Is the MoH included in 5 bridesmaids? Are you having the ladies escorted or are you just wanting it even for aesthetics? The MoH can walk the aisle alone while the others are escorted.
It's really hard to fabricate people for your wedding when there just isn't any. This may be one of those concessions you must make.
2007-02-21 07:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had this problem, too. We just had to swallow the explanations, and ask farther away family members from my side. His Best Man was a cousin of mine (that I grew up knowing well), and the groomsmen were my younger brother (18), and two nephews (18 and 16). It was odd, but that's how she goes sometimes....
2007-02-21 08:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use just three groomsmen. It really isn't worth all this worry; it's one day that will fly by so quickly you won't be able to eat, much less remember half of it! Plus, why stick random guys who he's not even close to on his side just to make it look "perfect"? Life itself isn't perfect and it's kind of unreasonable to expect it to be.
Besides, have you even ASKED your fiance what he thinks about all this? Maybe he doesn't want anyone else standing with him -- in which case, why force him?
Plenty of weddings these days have odd numbers in the wedding party.
2007-02-21 05:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by PasDeNom 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does he have cousins that he can ask? Do you have guy friends that you are close with? What about cousins of yours?
I know you guys want it even, but I've been to several weddings where there were more guys than girls or more girls than guys in the wedding party and it still looked beautiful! This is the least of your worries, so if it doesn't even out, who cares? Just enjoy your day!
Congrats.
2007-02-21 12:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a bridesmaid be a Groomswoman?
You really don't need even amount on both sides unless you feel you need to. You could also mix up who is beside who (i.e. have a girl or two on the grooms side).
2007-02-21 06:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋