My Mom takes care of my 4 year old niece and 19 month old nephew everyday. My mom has had 3 children and she is suppose to be a Grandmother, not the mother of my niece and nephew. My sister still lives at home with my mom living a rent free life, she doesn't even pay for the food for the children. My mom doesn't get a single cent from my sister and her bills seem to get higher and higher every month. My sister doesn't even bathe her own children or wash their clothes. What can I say or do to make my mom stand up for herself and tell my sister to take care of her own children!!!!
2007-02-21 05:42:52 · 8 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My mom doesn't want to take care of the children all the time, M sister pins the children down on her.
2007-02-21 05:57:21 · update #1
Your sister needs to get her head out of her *** and realize that your mom is not always going to be there to help her and bail her out. she also needs to realize that when she had 2 kids that she needed to grow up a little and show some responsibility, your mom needs to just put her foot down and tell your sister to grow up and start Helping Herself otherwise she will continue to leach until the end with your mom.
2007-02-21 05:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by yarconas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom is doing this out of the kindness of her heart. She knows if she doesn't do it then it probably wont be done. What mother can stand around and see their grand babies not be taken care of. I am glad your Mom is there to give them the love and attention they so need. Because obviously your sister is a flake! You cant tell your Mom to stop doing it. You should have this discussion with your sister. Your sister needs that growing up and acting like a responsible adult talk. But you might be talking to deaf ears on that one. Good luck and just be there for support for your Mom and those kids.
2007-02-21 05:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is enabling your sister. The only one that will be able to stop it is your mother. As long as she remains silent, it is going to continue.
Your mother needs to say something to your sister. My sister did the same sort of thing with her two kids for a bit, but my mother told her - finally - that she was not their mother, and unless my sister wanted my mother to take custody of her kids, then she had better start caring for them or my mother would go to the authorities and start the procedings. My sister changed her tune really fast.
I am sure your mother only means to assist your sister while she is "down on her luck". And in some way, I am sure your mother likes to be needed by one of her kids. But she needs to have some sort of guidelines, so that her daughter takes care of her kids. But again, this is the area your mom has to do things. You can't do it for her because all you end up doing is upsetting your mom and sister, and you will be the rotten one. Tell your mom that if she doesn't like it, she needs to speak up, otherwise, she needs to just live with it. Silence is compliance.
2007-02-21 06:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is the one who is going to have to get fed up and stand up for herself. You can't do this for her. You teach people how to treat you and your mother has taught your sister to walk all over her. Your mother is not doing your sister any favors by allowing her to be dependent on her and also showing her grandson that his mother isn't really responsible for him---his grandmother is. That's so sad. The only way your mother will possibly stop allowing this is if she realizes that she's hurting not helping her daughter. You could mention to your sister that she needs to pay your mother for food and rent and wash clothes, clean, etc., but it sounds like your sister doesn't really care about anyone but herself. You're a very caring daughter to worry about your mother, but unfortunately your mom is the one that has to handle this. Good Luck!
2007-02-21 06:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything you can do. Your mother is a grown woman and if she wants to enable your sister to behave irresponsibly she will. Maybe she's concerned that if she doesn't take care of your niece and nephew nobody will.
2007-02-21 05:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister first. Tell her she was the one who gave birth to them, so she is the one to take care of them. If she has no money to give to your mom, at least she should be the one to bathe them and wash their clothes.
2007-02-21 06:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by HAH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
settle for that this is the way your dad is, and he probably will no longer substitute ... extraordinarily no longer based on actual violence, which you seem to symbolize. shop the regulations, shop your grades up, discover invaluable activities that shop you out of the abode like volunteer artwork or a club, and attempt to no longer piss him off. In some years you would be an grownup so basically serve it slow and keep away from hardship.
2016-09-29 10:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should say to your sister why are you using mom then tell your mom that wat ever your sister name is being lazy and using you like the saying YOU USE THEY GIVE WHEN TIME COMES YOU ARE LEFT ALONE HANGING
2007-02-21 05:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by kittyluverpr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋