There's a guy that I've known for a little over a month now and sometimes we talk on the phone. Long story short, he's a great guy, sensitive, courteous, respectful,-- just about what I've asked for. Except,--- I'm not really attracted to him or even "attached" to him. There are no sparks that fly. What also bothers me to some extent is our age difference: He's 33, while I'm 19. My mom and my sister both like him and think he's PERFECT but I still feel like something is missing from this whole puzzle.
On the other hand, not many of the guys that are in my age group have asked me out, except a few--- but I wasnt really interested.
Should I just "go for" the "Perfect" guy and see where it takes me? He's repeatedly offered to take me out, and I've repeatedly made excuses. AND I keep criticizing myself for NOT just accepting him and going for it.
What should I do?
2007-02-21 05:39:16 · 7 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey there. I know how this situation feels I have been there before. I'll tell you that you may in time grow to love this man, but if that connection isn't there it won't be to the full potential that you should. It's always going to bother you and that will effect the relationship in the end. One of the best part of being in a real relationship is feeling that connection. Honestly he may be a good guy, but don't get involved with someone in a romantic way that you just don't feel those feelings for. Someone WILL get hurt in the end and it just isn't worth it. I hope I've helped. Good luck.
2007-02-21 05:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate to you. I have a really great guy friend that is sweet, caring, a real wonderful man, but there is no spark between us. I feel like he is the older brother I never had. A lot of other people tell me I should be with him because he's "perfect", but I just don't feel that way about him. And I know what the difference is because I have a boyfriend and love him with all my heart and feel that connection/spark with him. If you just settle for this man because he is available and treats you well, you may never be truly satisfied and you'll never be able to commit to him the way he deserves. Life is too short to just settle for what is availabe, relax and someday you will find that someone you have that spark with!
2007-02-21 07:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by DEENIE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go out with him and see what happens. Those sparks that you talk about aren't there yet because it takes time with some people, maybe after u go out with him u will feel something, u will feel more attached to him. But ull never know if u don't try, and in any case, its only one date, if it doesn't go well, no harm done. Go for it.
2007-02-21 05:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of guys do you usually go for, the bad type? Or is it the 14 year age difference, maybe he's more of a father type in your mind? If the feelings aren't there, you can't force them to be.
2007-02-21 05:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible you're reluctant because of the age difference? He is significantly older than you are, which could play a role.
2007-02-21 06:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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This dude is nothing but an OLD MAN preying on a YOUNG GIRL.
F%#^^%@$%^@$# THAT BULL SH^&%@&^%#!!!
I'm sorry but NO CHEMISTRY = NO CHEMISTRY= I-Don'T-WANT-YOU = GET THE F%$%@^#$@! AWAY FROM ME!!
Don't Settle . You'll only end up in some F^$@^$^%@$@ UP SH%$T!
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2016-12-04 11:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by binford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋