im a stay at home mom and i was wondering. do you lose all friend as soon as you have kids and stay at home ?
i feel like i just lost my before friends maybe its because they dont have kids and all. Its there somewhere i can find new friends?"" and moms who stay at home have had happen this?
2007-02-21 05:37:43 · 20 answers · asked by user 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As soon as I got married I never seen my friends again. Now I have children and the only friends that I have are my husband, my two kids and my mom. I guess that tells you what kinda of friends I had. And only one of them is married now. And the other friends do not talk to her now either.
2007-02-21 05:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am now back in the work force after 8 years of staying home. I will tell you, staying home or not your friends will change if you have children and they don't. Not that you will lose your current friends, you are just in different places right now. It is so hard to understand for those who do not have children. Even my relationship with my sister was totally different. But, I have so many wonderful friends now BECAUSE I am a mom and a stay at home mom. First of all, stay home mom doesn't mean stay home! Go to the library for preschool hour or something. Go to the park, the nature center, the zoo, the gymboree, where ever. Even at a few months old, experiences like that will be good for your baby AND YOU. Meet other people that are in the same life place as you. Then, when your friends have children, they will understand and come crawling back! My sister has a two week old and is about to get some serious first hand experience of why being spontaneous is no longer part of her vocabulary! Look for opportunities and enjoy it, this time will go quickly.
2007-02-21 05:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by D Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home dad, (work from home too when the kids allow) and yes, that does happen.
Once you have children your time is limited and old friends fall by the wayside. We see a few every now and then while out and about, talk a bit and catch up, but we've just been trying to get our kids raised right so that when they are older we can go out and spend time with our friends again.
2007-02-21 05:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by zhadowlord 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 22 yrs with a 2 yr old, and I lost ALL my friends to parting and college life, I know how you feel. Go to the park or the pool, and you will meet LOTS of stay -at-home moms! Target is a good place too... lol I see ALL moms and kids when I go during the middle of the week.
2007-02-21 06:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda know what your saying I'm a SAHM and really all I have is my husbands friends. I don't go out without him while all my old friends have a good time. I can't go to work because daycare costs to much and part time, Well that's a joke. My family lives to far away to have them watch them. I love my kids but there is no place I can go that don't cost a arm and a leg for all of us.
Oh well look at this way, they don't stay small forever before you know it they be up and gone by the time your friends have their friends kids in school, you'll be on that cruse ship soaking up the sun with a 7&7 in your hand just smiling.
2007-02-21 05:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stay at home and I have the same friends as I did before. I think though if you are young, many of your friends are still in the "party animal" phase of their lives. But make an effort to call them and ask if they would like to do dinner sometime. I go out with one friend in particular at least once a month. It's nice to get out and have some adult conversation too. They might feel as if you have nothing to talk about, but really if you try, you can always find something to talk about. Good luck, never regret staying home with your kids. Mine are almost in school, and I'm going to miss them like crazy!
2007-02-21 05:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am a stay at home mom for 6 months now and if feels like I don't see or talk to any of my friends anymore. I plan on joining a mommy and me group or something along those lines but right now we are in the process of moving so I am waiting until we are moved and settled before I through anything else into my schedule.
2007-02-21 05:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you can have friends! You just need to get yourself out there and stop dwelling in the home all the time! If you have kids, join some parent groups for the school, like the PTA. Go to Jazzercise, take an art class. Meet your kids friend's parents and have lunch together. There are many ways, just be outgoing and get out of the house sometimes!
2007-02-21 05:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am also a stay at home mom and you do loose contact with a lot of people but your true friends will always keep up your friendship as long as you dont loose part as well. I have met some really nice women at the park or the fast food playgrounds. As a stay at home mom there is always somthing you can do with your children.
2007-02-21 05:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by grady e 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We moved to a new town when my son was just 2 weeks old so I had to start all over. I would just strike up conversations with moms everywhere (the park, in stores) and if I liked her in just a few minutes I would suggest getting the kids together. It was a bit hit or miss, but 3 years later I've formed some very good friendships that way. You just have to be a bit more outgoing (but after a few months cooped up with no one to talk to you get desperate enought to talk to just about anyone).
2007-02-21 05:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋