I was excellent in studies but for quite a long time i remained inactive in class-i had very low self confidence.But now when i realised the importance of being an extrovert i decided to break the cycle of anxiety .I m trying very hard to get out of it but my elder sis' is quite sarcastic in behaviour;she tries to make me feel that i can never get out of this anxiety-infact publicly she always makes me feel low& same with my sis-in-law. I m very close to both of them & NOW I FEEL THAT THEY BOTH ARE NOT MY WELL WISHERS which actually hurts me.I feel like all my support system is cut off! plz suggest me something("~ ")
2007-02-21 05:33:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
SOMETIMES THIS SITUATION IS ALSO IN MY HOUSE.BUT DO NOT WORRY IF U HAVE CONFIDENCE THEN YOU WILL NOT CARE FOR ANYTHING.
2007-02-21 05:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by AaSHEK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of Projection??? When someone points a finger at you there are three other fingers point back at the person pointing? Your sisters are projecting onto you,what is going on within themselves.Perhaps they are a little envious of your achedemic ablilities,or youth.Perhaps because they are older than you they they wish to keep a dominace over you.Eaither way, the more they put you down, the more you must be doing something right.
You don't necessarily have to be an extrovert to gain confidence,just be comfortable being who you are around other people, and strive to be the best person you can be.
I know how you feel about sisters not being well wishers,and maybe they don't mean to be so condescending. I am sure in other areas of your life your sisters are very supportive.. but you are on your own with the issues of self esteem.
Hope this helps...
2007-02-21 06:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by iwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Chinki first of all just calm down, don’t panic and for God’s sake don’t misunderstand the intentions of the people who love you. You yourself admit that you were excellent in studies but suddenly took a nosedive. Fortunately you realized your mistake and are trying to rectify the situation. Now when you took the nosedive for whatever reason it is only natural for alarm bells to go off in the minds and hearts of those who love you. They will react in a manner they think will jolt you out of your stupour because they are concerned about you. They words or actions maybe seem to you as being sarcastic or whatever, however, please be assured that they only have your interest in mind and you should be happy that you have someone who cares for you. Ask yourself this. “Did they behave like this when you were doing well??? Hopefully now that you are convinced that everything is fine with the world I urge you walk that extra mile to get yourself back up there. Prove to them and to yourself that you are a big girl now and can take care of yourself. All the Best Honey, you can do it.
2007-02-21 19:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sincere advise is if you really want to do some thing, then concentrate on studies and get good marks and that indeed will become a slap shot on your sister and sister-in law face, they cannot say anything bad of you, because you have already crossed the dull mind and came into a new and a person who is able to handle all the things boldly, keep going and do what i said sincerely.
2007-02-21 18:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get upset,these things r part of life follow these things beconfident,stop blaming others and yourself,praiseothers and urself,sincerity,be responsible,let go the past,acceptance,think that life is very short,trust people,,feel that ur part of existence,,ur nature sld be love and peace if every thing is balanced u will be ok.every thing will fall in line dont worry.keep smiling thats gods expensive gift.cheer up.
2007-02-22 03:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by revathy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must be you yourself, also to be a good person to them, but never, never to make any sacrifice for them, unless it is a situation of attention to their health. But, pay attention to you, because if you are wrong you will not have them to comfort you to become feeling well again.
2007-02-21 07:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by mary2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them people like that are part of what causes your anxiety and you know you can live your life just fine without them. Is that what they want?
2007-02-21 06:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't need them but just tell them the way you feel if they don't understand you and keep acting like that then prove them wrong
2007-02-21 05:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Hummm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to them about it. But if you've really slacked like you've alluded to then time is really your answer. You need to prove your intentions over time. Then the trust will come back.
2007-02-21 05:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and tell them how you feel. Hopefully they will stop there behavior and think of what is best for you.
2007-02-21 05:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,.....being introvert helps,my dear....after always..i ahve always felt the same thing: introverts have a better prospect for future
2007-02-21 05:42:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋