Wat can we do to sign rights away?

Question

the mother wont let us see my husband daughter. and its been almost 3yrs. also he is paying childsupport we can barely make it on our own. please help

Answer 1

Is he wanting to give up his parental rights? If so I am sure it is dependent on where you live. He could also take her to court because if the mother is not allowing the father to see the child he could have visitation enforced. Child support and visitation are separate issues and both can be enforced.

Answer 2

I’m assuming you’re talking about parental rights (which is a different thing than custodial rights) and that the ultimate goal is to get out of paying child support? Because of course if he's not seeing the child, then the child doesn't need food/shelter/clothing/etc (hear the sarcasm?)

There is NO state in the US that will allow a man to do this. If they did, the welfare system would be overwhelmed (and it already is) with the need for the taxpayers to support the children that men have just decided they didn’t want to support (even though they were partially responsible for the creation of the children). My taxes are already high enough, thank you. I’m struggling to support my own children, I don’t want to support anybody else’s.

But, if Mom has married and her new husband is willing to adopt the child, then it would be allowed, because then the new hubby/adoptive father would be responsible for supporting the child.

If hubby has court-ordered visitation, then he needs to take her to court if she’s denying him visitation. If he doesn’t have court-ordered visitation, then he needs to get it, because until he does, she is under no legal obligation to allow him to see the child.

Answer 3

I'm not sure I understand. The mother, to whom you all are paying child support, won't let you see HIS daughter. GET AN ATTORNEY and take her to court, and call the cops to get the visitation enforced when/if she refuses. So you'd rather take the easy way out and just sign away HIS rights? That poor kid should know that her father did everything in his power to be in her life, otherwise she will feel worthless and abandoned. Shame on the two of you for not standing up to this woman. He had the kid, he made the kid, it's his responsibility to pay child support even if you two can barely make it. Learn how to budget, get an extra job, borrow money for the attorney. My goodness, this is his flesh and blood, his child. Is this how you want him to treat any kids that the two of you have together?

Answer 4

my my, ppl can be so mean, I've seen this happen. My BIL lost visitation pending a CPS investigation of child abuse with their daughter. He was found NOT to have been the perp but his x refused to let him see his two kids for over 3 years...all the while he paid his child support & borrowed money to pay an attorney. He did NOT give up! He wanted his kids! He fought hard in that court room, every time the woman moved he sent the new addy to the courts, he finally confronted her and her new husband after 3+ years & they "let him have custody of the oldest (a boy) & visitations with their daughter, no child support as long as he CO SIGNED for a big loan they wanted. HE TOOK the deal. He's had his kids in his life for 13 years now. He tells everyone they was worth fighting for. He's had to pay back $6,000 of that loan they, yes-you guessed it, didn't pay. But he says it's worth every bit of effort, sweat, blood, tears, etc. His oldest graduates high school this year & is doing better than his parents. He bought his first house at 18 1/2 yrs old & he holds down a welding job full time, making more money than his father! So don't give up! The kids are worth every bit of effort it may take! Show his daughter he loves her more than money! It can seem hard at times but you can fight her in court pro-se. (with out an attorney) If you fall into the poverty line the court may waiver the court fees. Go to your court house & ask for the pro-se pack for custody modification. In those papers explain to the judge why you feel she shouldn't be given custody...ie she's refused your visitation for 3+ years, your married now so it shows stability, you've paid your child support, proves your interest in the child, etc. build your own case & file the paperwork ASAP. Some lawyers will even help you fill them out if you pay them one hours wage. (their wage not yours) Anyways, you can't get out of parenting unless his ex agrees to let him out. NO judge will let any parent off the "child support hook". Does the x have a GOOD reason for NOT letting him see their daughter? The judge will be interested in knowing why she's felt it neccessary to keep the girl away & why he didn't try SOONER to enforce a visitation schedule.

Answer 5

well first of all its not your right to sign any right away the child is not yours and if your husband wants to sign his rights away then hes not to big of a man go to court see if you cant get visits with his child but you know if i was you i would just be there for him but i would not get into the middle of it to much if its hard for you and your family to make it get a second job i am a single mom of 3 and i do what i have to for my kids i go without alot but my kids have food and a roof over there heads and they know i love them and they are fine with it good luck and really think about what your asking would you want him to do this if you had children to him

Answer 6

Go back to court. By law he has to pay child support and the only way you can get around that is if she agrees to it in court and signs the docs.

Answer 7

You can't. He's already accepted responsibility for the child. You are one cold person to want to just walk away. Have you discussed this with him? Does he want to walk away from his own flesh and blood? And if he does, do you want to really be with a man who can do that? Because if he can do it to her, he can do it to you and your children. Get a lawyer, get visitation rights set down, follow them. It's not hard.