I let my sister borrow my car for a couple of hours because hers was in the shop and she promised nothing would happen. My niece is 4 and my nephew almost 20 months. Well, My bad sister left her children in the car and my niece un buckled her seat belt and my nephew's as well and destroyed toys that my son had, lost some of his thomas trains by throwing them out of the window, they found a small stash of formula I keep just in case that I replace every month and poured 10 oz of formula all over my car. They ruined my son and daughter's coat. I know it's my fault for letting her borrow the car, but she didn't even say sorry about the car or thank you for borrowing it. It's a brand new luxury car with leather seats. My niece destroyed my bose speakers by spilling juice on it.What should I do or say?
2007-02-21 05:32:15 · 25 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Have her pay for everything that HER children did, because it was lent to her, it is her responsibility. As bad is it might be that you may get into a fight over this, she will think that she can get away with anything if you do nothing.
2007-02-21 05:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by jaycee99999999 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could say nothing, except when she asks to borrow the car next time tell her sorry, but you returned it in bad shape last time you borrowed it, your kids trashed the back with juice and messed with my kid's toys. OR you could call her and say, 'hey, I know you were distracted/busy, but your kids made a big mess in the back of my car, if you want to borrow it again, I'm going to have to ask you to pay closer attention. OR you just consider it a lesson learned, and come up with excuses why she can't borrow it. Chances are her kids are like this anyway, kids usually are, it's up to the parents to see to the clean up....and she's just not into taking care of nice things? This is probably not the first time her kids have 'messed' up your kids's stuff.
2007-02-21 05:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get it cleaned and repair what needs to be repaired. replace whatever toys and things for your kids. if you present her with a bill she won't pay, take her to small claims court. make sure you document the day you lent her the car, have a list of things you needed to repair/replace/clean, accompanied by receipts. don't lend her the car again and tell her she's lucky you didn't sic child protective services on her for leaving the kids alone in the car. what the heck was she thinking leaving them in the car for even less than a minute, and by the way it sounds, they were alone in there for a lot longer than a few minutes? take her to court even if you know she doesn't have the $$ to pay; she's got to learn somehow to have respect for other peoples hard earned possessions, and if it takes the hassle and embarrassment of being dragged to court by a family member, so be it.
2007-02-21 05:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by zoë's mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have everything professionally cleaned and send her the bill. Yes, you let her borrow it, in good faith that she would return it in one piece. Let her know ahead of time that you are having it cleaned and let her know you expect her to clean it. She should have taken the kids in with her, not left them in the car. That's just common sense. Although a lot of Moms do it, I never leave my kids in the car alone. NEVER But she is responsible for any damages you have to your car. Lesson learned, next time she can call a cab.
2007-02-21 05:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring it to be cleaned and give her the bill and let her know how disrespectful she is. That is uncalled for. Then tell her that you expect her to replace the speakers as well. I would make sure that she understands totally how you are feeling. She is your sister and you cared enough to let her borrow your car.. she could have rented one. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 05:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um,
Ask her what the hell she was thinking!!
Tell her what was ruined and what she needs to replace. Especially the coats. Why did she leave them unattended? What does your hubby say about the ruining of the speakers - I bet he isn't happy.
Tell her how hard she made this on you and your family. And, you can't trust her with the car. So, don't even bother asking next time.
2007-02-21 05:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you've cooled off some and let her know that there were some things ruined due to her negligence of her children (btw, I believe it's a crime to leave your children unattended in a car). Ask her how she plans to correct the situation.
2007-02-21 05:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister should pay for the damages and replacement of your children's lost toys. You should discuss this with your sister and tell her that you don't think that it's fair that you loaned her your new car, and her repayment to you was to have her children trash it, and her not even say I'm sorry, and it's especially not fair for you to have to pay for the cleaning, and repair work that needs to be done.
2007-02-21 05:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by D-pig 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all never let her use the car again of course then i would ask her how she would feel if someone had done that to herhow would she feel i would also make her pay for a detailed cleaning of the car and replacement of the speaker that got ruined
2007-02-21 05:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by HOT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say this: I let you borrow my car because I knoew you needed it and I thought you would take care of it but you didn't now I would like you to replace what is ruined.
2007-02-21 06:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋