Whenever i think about my GF i get headpain and whenever i meet her i feel extremely low, i just dont get to be myself and i feel like i am not at all attractive.
My gal is only with me coz she thinks i have a gud heart! tht's it !
She dont get attracted to me physically and its like she just with me coz she thinks she has to be with me as i am gud person.
Her behavoir had made me very week and i often cry.
I cant dump her at the moment(Plz dont ask why), just tellme how to get over this low feeling when i go out with her, talk with her....
Please gimme a real solution and plz dont suggest anything like talk with her, avoid her as i tried and its failed.
2007-02-21 05:29:43 · 17 answers · asked by Romps 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want an temporary solution, eventually i will break off..... but i need time
2007-02-21 05:37:51 · update #1
Hey hun. I hate to say it, but it sounds like you're looking for an answer that's gonna do a quick fix to your relationship and well there isn't one. If this girl isn't with you for the right reasons then this isn't going to work out in the end and why stretch something out that you know isn't going to work. I'm sorry, but here are you're choices. 1. Break up with her(even though you say you can't??) 2.Tell her EXACTLY how you feel and that your telling her this because you don't want things to go bad with yall. 3.Stop being negative about it and do something to MAKE her attracted to you. Do something like amazing for her. Only pick this one if like you actually think this girl is worth it....
Sorry I know this may not have helped, but it's all I can really think to say. Good luck.
2007-02-21 05:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t get it. Why do you feel low when you are with her? What is it that she does that you feel like that?
If you think she is with you because of who you are, and not for how you look like, well, welcome to the real world. If you are going to be with someone because of how they look only, the relation will not last.
I am sure she likes you too for how you look like. You might not be her “ideal” looks, but trust me, if she is with you, is also because she likes you somehow. You should be happy that she likes you for who you really are. This is something that is hard to find around these days.
Besides, why don’t you try to fix up a little bit? You should know what kind of looks she is into, right? Well, go and prep up a little bit for her. Just as you would probably like her to wear something sexy, or maybe do her hair with some style, you can do the same for her.
And sorry to slap you again with reality check, but YOU DO NEED TO TALK TO HER ABOU THIS. A relation with secrets is not meant to last. You need to be honest to her about your feelings, and what bothers you.
Unless you don’t love her, then you should work out the relation and see if you two can be together. Otherwise, if you don’t love her, then you must leave her now. It doesn’t matter what is going on. Unless someone just died on her family or something like that where she needs support, you should leave the relation before it gets worse. Again, this is only if you are not interested in her anymore.
And do me a favor and stop crying around and start being a man. And I don’t mean not to cry, because a real man does cry, but to step up in your life and take control of it because it sounds like you really have nothing going on there right now and your life is just “floating” around.
2007-02-21 13:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem. And I don't think that you should talk to her or break up with her. Because this is your problem and you would probably feel like this no matter who you were dating. You need to work on your selfesteem. She is with you out matter what reason. I am never attracted to people physical, it is all about personality. I am seroius. You need to find out who you are and be that person not matter what. Try to be confident. That is very attractive. I was never confident and always thought that my bfriend didn't find me attrative and it almost broke us up. He asked where that confident sexy girl he met went. And I stopped thinking about things so much. He is with me and thats that. I am who I am and that's great. Now both him and I think that I am more attrative and things are going great. Think about the thigs she likes about you and focus on that. When you are go with a group try talking to other people. Be out going. You will never be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself. I hope this helps a little. I know that it is a very thing to go through and it will take time.
2007-02-21 13:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dana M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to the beginning--and find every little detail you like about her. Really think about it. Build her up in your mind then hopefully when you see her you'll be so excited about those little things you wont feel blue anymore.
ive gone through it before. i know how it is. :( it really does suck.
also try just getting away for a few days or a week or so (not too much tho) and see if you think about her or miss her at all or anything. if you do theres feelings there and that should make you happy. if not....then...idk its up to you really.
2007-02-21 13:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by *<^>Lizz<^>* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to relax.....try to find out what's up with her lately...has her behaviour changed at all?If yes then something's wrong...
I hate to tell you but there's absulutely no way to change you're feelings towards her.And there's no way to get over this phase unless you break up with her,kind of hard but what to do?If you don't do it now then the problem will get much more worse.
The other you can to is TALK TO HER.I know you don't want to hear this but please try.....only this way you'll relax
Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-21 13:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like you are happy with yourself. You are insecure and thats what you have to work on. You need to look in the mirror everyday and say I love me. I love me. You need to stop focusing on all your bad flaws and focus on your good side. You say you have a good heart, start with that. Focus on your inner beauty and let that shine through, Because if you don't love you than you can love her.
2007-02-21 13:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by MsTruthful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your girlfriend how you are feeling. If you want to remain friends with her you should tell her. My cousin had the same problem and what i told her is that she needed to tell him the truth. Tell your gf that you think that you two would work out better as friends than as a couple.
2007-02-21 13:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay look she is going out with u for your personallity! THAT IS GOOD! u guys don't get it do u? not every girl wants a relationship where they get banged everynight some girls just want an honest relationship! don't feel weak get stronger from it! and i am srry u feel this way
2007-02-21 13:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know why you can't dump her, why don't you tell us? Because everybody is going to tell you to do just that. If you feel this way when you're with her, you don't need to be with her.
2007-02-21 13:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you probably dnt want to hear this but the only way you can get over this low state is to not be with her...you cant change yourself to make others happy if you are not happy....somethings are just not meant to be
2007-02-21 13:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by carmenshamane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋