Let's face it. Everybody grows old. Everybody once strong starts to wither- at least a little. Why do so many people treat their own parents, grandparents who have looked after them, nourished and petted them in their childhood as vermin? You lived with your parents when you were a child, why can't they live with you when they grow old? They too long for some family, and don't want to be just admitted into an old-age home. Why do so many families literally discard the elders of their family? Are they a financial burden? Does the age gap disturb you? Do they rant along? Can't you cope up with treating their illness? They fall ill too many times for your liking?
2007-02-21 05:25:17 · 5 answers · asked by Volvogirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because people are lazy and irresponsible and don't want to take care of the people who raised them through everything they did. It's very sad.
2007-02-21 05:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do all grow old and at some point we need to rely on others to take care of us. Just to be clear not all nursing homes are bad. For some elderly people it gives them a spark of life because they are surrounded by others and can make new friends even at an old age. they bond and can do things on the same level. I think the sad thing is that once the elderly go to a home the family seems to forget they are there and the need to be connected to family is still very strong for them and is form of being connected to the outside world. If at all possible when the time comes I will take care of my father as long as I can but there are times when one does need help or assistance to be able to give quality care for a loved one. My Grandparents are in a nursing home together and there is no way I would be able to care for them in my own home because of the mobility issue. Also I seriously doubt that I would be able to keep them entertained with all the activity's that happen where they are. I visit them about 3 times a week and this seems to keep everyone including my self happy. I can understand what you are saying about family And I agree with you, I can only hope that some day families will wake up and realize what cherished treasures they have stuffed in a box.
2007-02-21 15:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that people put the elderly into "old-age" homes to relieve a financial burden you are GRAVELY mistaken. Just be thankful that not everyone in this world is this way.
2007-02-21 13:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by Calli G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised totally different than most people in the world because we were raised to take care of our own. My great grandmother was sent to a nursing home against my mothers wishes and so in turn she took care of my grandmother herself until she died. It killed my mothe seeing my great grandmother in a nursing home my great grandmother never cut her hair she, and when she went into the nursing home the first thing they did was cut her hair, I know that seems small but she went downhill fast from that point. So as for me I will take care of my elders just as they did me when I was too young to take care of myself. My husbands family sends their elderly to nursing homes and his grandfather died a while back but his grandmother died recently and it was a blessing because they were keeping her alive with feeding machines and different things she did not know any of her family and she was unresponsive so she was gone before she ever passed away.
2007-02-21 13:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The extended family is the glue that holds society / culture
together...
The demise of the extended family is a sign of the decline of
a nation / society....
2007-02-21 13:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋