Hi, I've got a cousin who lives in Missouri, and I live in California. I haven't lived in Missouri in about 3 years, but when I lived there (which was about 4 years overall, I had a cousin who constantly tormented me whenever I was around her.) She would intentionally exclude me, humiliate me in front of other family members, and ignore me and never really talk to me, and any attention that she did give me was usually negative and critical. First she told me that she did these things because she knew it bothered me, which she probably does know, but then she told me that I did something to her, but she didn't say what I did. Then she told me because I am younger than she is, then she told me I have an "attitude problem." Doesn't it sound like SHE'S the one with the attitude problem? And even if I did (which I don't), what does she care and why does she feel the need to harass me? She just won't give up,and I've developed many health problems. Am I being bullied?
2007-02-21 05:20:09 · 6 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like it. Just confront her and tell her that you don't appreciate it. You need to stand up for yourself. After that, I would just ignore her and avoid her. It sounds like she may be a bit jealous for some reason. Don't let her get to you. I'm sure you have many good qualities. You be the mature one. Let her make an a** out of herself,if she wants to. If you don't feed into it, people will know that she's the idiot and not you. Don't take it to heart. I've been in your exact situation,so I know how you feel. Good luck. :)
2007-02-21 05:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the better person and ignore her. Sever all ties, and if you must see her at family gathering or something just dismiss her Petty comments with a little smile. Be very condescending. Beat her at her own game. Most importantly, however, realize that her opinion about you does not matter. Try to really not care. Good luck!
2007-02-21 13:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanster88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you are being bullied .i think the reason she treats you so bad is because she jealous of you or she loves tormenting you dont let what she says about you bother you there is a saying people will talk about you till the day you die dont let that bother you girl i think she love to see you get hurt . if she is your cousin and she treat you so bad i think she is not a good friend to have.
2007-02-21 13:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful carribean princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this was 3 years ago. don't worry about it now. yes, she was bullying you. you should've told someone back then, but you didn't. i'm sorry that your cousin treated you that way. i know how it feels, b/c i had a cousin that did the same thing. there's no way to get them to leave you alone, unless you tell someone.
2007-02-21 13:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened 3 years ago. Get over it, and don't talk to her anymore. You're not living with her now, so cut ties.
2007-02-21 13:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are (or were). You might consider reading a self help book on how to assert yourself so it doesnt happen in the future.
2007-02-21 13:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋