it sucks!!!! i work two jobs and got o school at night i go to the gym and try to work out for my self and to better my self, i try to move on and itsa so hard. i also dont like thinking about her it hurts but i have to man up and that is hard to do when we are sad
2007-02-21 05:15:50 · 11 answers · asked by Beto C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why did she leave you?
2007-02-21 05:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing everything right pal. You're keeping really busy and bettering yourself. That is the ticket.
When you're alone at night or right as you try to go to sleep is the hardest part I'll agree. Maybe try falling asleep with a game on.
Better yet, sit down and write up all the things that you didn't like about her. Right now all you remember are the good times. I'm sure there were a few things you didn't like that she did. Write them down. Remember that those are the reasons you are no longer together and that not all girls are like what you wrote down.
I actually think you have a much better perspective on this than most people. I would bet you bounce back faster than you might think. One day you won't think about her at all, and the next day you will realize that you didn't think about her at all, and will go "huh, guess she really wasn't the right one anyway." And that will be it. It won't be worth thinking about for you.
2007-02-21 13:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds, you are wounded. You must work hard to replace your thoughts of her with someone or something else.You are doing the right thing by improving yourself physically and mentally. Studying keeps your mind on what you're studying and not on her. Working out is a great way to release hormones that help us when we feel blue. Someday, when the time is right, (which is not for you to determine) a new woman will come along and you will be in great shape. For now you're not in shape emotionally for anyone. You must heal yourself by having those internal talks with the voice that tells you all those negative things, tell it to shut up and that you are worthy and you will find true love, maybe next time. Stay focused on school and work, save your money, pay for school and grow to become greater than you even imagined! Before you know it she will be a distant memory and you will be happy with all you accomplish. When you least expect it you will find a wonderful new woman, the right woman, standing right in front of you! Sometimes we have to go through these things in order to really appreciate the real thing when it comes along. Good Luck! =)
2007-02-21 13:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have to tell you that right now your only best friend is time.. i couldnt' possibly tell you to keep busy because you are a very busy man, and that is a good thing. IF you didn't have anything going on in your life, your situation would be far worse. So their is really no cure, but to just keep up the good work with yourself, "as to not waste precious time", and let time heal your wounds.
P.S. You seem like a very smart guy, and your right you don't need to be told what to do, or when and how to think, and i also sense their is really no question here, just feed back. YOU want to ventilate, exhale, let is off your chest, and that is one of the good things you can do, that is positive aside from keeping busy. SO frankly my dear your well on your way.. like i said, all you need is time... :) Let it out.. and that pain will slowly empty on out of your system.. slowly but surely. COOL!
2007-02-21 13:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by MOON13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I can help here is to let you know you're not alone in your misery. I'm in the same boat with my ex. I took on both my nieces ages 8 & 3, I still pick up after my 18 yr old son, 17 yr old daughter, her 19 yr old b/f, 2 dogs 1 cat, plus 2 more kids that needed a place to go & their 3 dogs. I started a rigorous workout and back into meditation. He's still in all my thoughts and dreams. Let me know if you find something that works.
2007-02-21 13:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It hurts dude, something fierce, I'm going through the same thing. I'm still not o.k. especially when I'm alone i feel so empty like all my insides have been gutted, i don't sleep good at all, and when i wake up i feel like garbage. It's o.k. to be in pain. it is also good to go outside and do things for yourself, spoil yourself for now untill you heal. i wish you the best of luck, getting over someone is no easy task jst remember your a good person.
2007-02-21 13:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to know it happend but try to move on. I mean its hard I know. So im young but i know what it feels like it when you lose something importent to you and i know its alright you will be ok.
2007-02-21 13:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by lil_thing00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to girls that you work with or go to school with who have the same or similar hobbies as you. breaking up is hard, but you need to move on. try talking to other girls who are around you, you never know what could happen or what it could lead to. good luck :)
2007-02-21 13:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by sasha_miller_2008 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey how about you e-mail me and then I can tell you what I really think. This stuff is censored.
2007-02-21 13:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by sweeter than you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go out and tyr to forget her i would try my hardest to get over her if i eas you
2007-02-21 13:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by jewelzlovesfalloutboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋