Little girl stole my daughters cart at the grocery store.....?

Question

You know those hugemongous carts that look like cars and buses and whatnot, well my daughter...3 1/2 was standing by the cart waiting for me to reach her (i am pregnant and not moving as quickly anymore) when a girl about 6 yrs old came running up to her, pushed her out of the way and climbed into the cart. The girls mother said,

"oh, I'm sorry did your daughter want that cart? Maybe next time," and went on her way.

I told my daughter that I was so happy that she was not rude like that other little girl, and that if something like that ever happened that I know she would not push people to get what she wanted. She said,

"of course I wouldn't mommy," and then everytime we saw the "others" in the store my daughter would say super loudly,

"theres that rude little girl who stole my cart!"

Her mom tried to tell me that she shouldn;t be saying that in the store s it hurt her daughters feelings, I told her to suck it up, if shes going to raise a rude kid she better get used to be called out on it and walked away.

Opinions, should I have kept my mouth shut or handled it differently?

Answer 1

Confrontation with people like that never does any good really other than to make you feel somehow better. I honestly can't see you teaching the mother anything... People like that are convinced that they are not only special, but that you should know it too and if you don't, they will have no trouble reminding you.

It drives me nuts... I can be very confrontational when provoked but it almost never accomplishes anything really, other than to make a pointless point to an idiot who will never see themselves any differently.

Its like they occupy an alternate universe and come over here to torment and terrorize us every now and then...

Considering... I think you did okay. I however would have been a little more adamant.

Once I asked a woman in the grocery store to please put her little jack-asses back on their leashes because they were running around like little psycho's driving everyone nuts.

I am not subtle... and never mince words.

I had an old lady behind me at the grocery store, in the parking lot the other day. She pulled behind me and became annoyed that she got herself stuck behind me while I was waiting for someone to pull out of their parking spot. She sat behind me, huffed and puffed and beeped her fool head off knowing that I would be out of her way as soon as the other person left the space. It was about a 30 second wait all together...

She honked her horn and flashed gestures and I did my very best to ignore her but got a good look at her as she flew by me like a witch on a broom as soon as I moved.

While in the store. She was in front of me picking out her cart... I stood right behind her and continously repeated... "BEEP...BEEP... BEEP...BEEP." Until she moved. She turned around and noticed that it was me, and ran for the hills!

Then later on in another asile. She stood in my way trying to reach something off the top shelf... I looked at her, stood behind her waiting and waiting and then I said. "Need some help with that huh?" as I am rather tall... She looked at me and turned 30 different shades of embarassed... To which I repeated again. BEEP, BEEP , BEEP, BEEP... Until she gave up and moved on.

All in all... Im certain that she now has a story to go home and tell her alternate universe alien retard family of the very RUDE girl who stood behind her and beeped like an idiot for no good reason. I'M CERTAIN OF IT!

I like to tell myself this when I encounter this type...

"There is no sense in being an As*shole if you can't prove it." and they do... Every chance they get.

Must be nice to live completely self convinced, with no moral gage huh? Strange...

Answer 2

Good. I hate kids like that, and parent's like that even more. I would have been horrified if my girls pushed someone, ESPECIALLY if they were so much older. What's a 6 yr old doing in a cart anyway?

What you said to the mom was great, not rude, just honest. I probably would have said something in front of the mom at the time. But, again, it was a very mature thing you did & taught to your daughter. The situation could have escalated and not been good the children.

Your resonse in the store was also mature & appropriate.

Good Job!

Answer 3

I'm laughing because my daughter does the same thing. One little girl was being a monster at the grocery store and my daughter said loudly, "That girl is being NAUGHTY. Her Mom needs to give her a swift kick in the butt." I just smiled and said "you're right." and kept going.

I wouldn't feel ashamed for what you or your daughter said. It seems to me the other woman was one of these Moms that it's OK if her kid does it, but it's not ok for them to be on the recieving end of it. Plus the fact that you are pregnant! I used to think it was so rude when we would go to a restuarant and be waiting with young men SITTING on the benche waiting and never getting up to offer a seat. I guess common curtousy is long gone.

Answer 4

I think you handled that situation with class. Three year old children speak their minds, especially if they are upset. I would not get upset with my four year old daughter if that happened to her. If the other mother was embarrassed, then she could have told her older child to let your child, who was there first, have the kiddie cart. I'm sorry that you were not given more consideration, especially to the fact that you are with child. I think this was a good conversation to have with your daughter. At least she now realizes that their are rude people, and you won't accept her acting that way. Kids act the way their parents act, pity the other child for not having a better example.

Answer 5

I think you did the right thing. If I did the same thing, with you being pregnant too, I would have not only given you the cart, but helped your daughter get in. That lady was rude and maybe if she would have been more understanding, there wouldn't have been any comments from your daughter.

Answer 6

I think that it was great that you told your daughter that you were proud of her for not being rude. And as far as what you said to the other lady, I think that you had every right to stand up for yourself and your daughter. It is obvious that they don't care about peoples' feels and maybe if they are called on it they will see how they are acting. People will never change if they don't see that what they are doing is wrong. I am glad that you pointed out that to the mother. Good job!!

Answer 7

Oh, her pwincess pwecious shoves your daughter out of the way and you shouldn't hurt HER feelings?

Oh wow. I'm glad that you're trying to raise your daughter right! What goes around comes around...eventually this will bite the other woman right in the rear end!

BTW my five-year-old son loves those carts too...we shop early in the morning on Friday (since he doesn't have preschool on Fridays) since that's when there are not too many people in the store and those carts are available.

Answer 8

After the woman said "oh, I'm sorry did your daughter want that cart? Maybe next time," I would have said "yes, this is our cart" and not let her get away with it.

Answer 9

LOL>...I wish was there to witness that!

I hate those carts anyway. They are bulky and a pain in the butt to manuver around, not to mention loud. They also have way more surface area for filth and bacteria. You'd do well to steer your daughter away from those carts anyway.

Answer 10

Sure you should have kept your mouth shut, because your the better person. BUT come on. Don't you feel SO much better now that you got that off your chest? I would, lol. In the other moms case, like mother, like daughter.

Good Luck