How can my deaf BF improve his comprehension? He's 48 so maybe it's too late? But I don't want to think that.

Question

He loves math, history and English but he says he has trouble understanding them. He was held back a grade b/c of it. But he's not dumb, it's just that it's hard to understand when you can't hear. And 35-40 years ago when he was a kid, teachers weren't all that helpful. I think he FEELS dumb. How can I 1) help his self-esteem and 2) help him improve at math and English? Have other deaf ppl experienced this?

Answer 1

I am not deaf, but I am a teacher of the deaf and I can tell you that many deaf people experience difficulties with written English, in particular. As you said, it has nothing to do with their intellect or abilities, but with their educational experiences. Even today, deaf children are often short-changed when it comes to education. I have seen some amazingly bright, talented kids fall behind in reading and language every single year because all the adults around them are fighting about what's best instead of following the child's lead.

Anyway, if your BF is interested in improving his math and English (that's the first key- it has to come from him), there are several options. Gallaudet University is a clearinghouse of information for deaf people of all ages (www.gallaudet.edu). They have several regional centers across the country that have workshops for deaf and hearing people on various topics. Also, many community colleges have programs for adults who for whatever reason want to improve specific skills. Your BF would be able to get a sign language interpreter, but what would be best is to hook up with a program where the teachers are specifically able to address the needs of a deaf adult. Sometimes the deaf school in your area will have contacts, so he should contact the nearest deaf school and find out if they have any recommendations. Often deaf schools have extended programs for graduates who need additional work in one area or another.

I hope this helps. Once your BF starts looking into all these connections, he will definitely see that he is not alone.

Answer 2

Yes he is not alone and as his partner u can investigate the Galludet College located in Washington, D.C. for help in that area they might even have a website so try galludet.ed or galludet.com or galludet college.com or ed or galludetuniversity.com or ed good luck.

Answer 3

All you can do is encourage him and tell him you would feel happy if he did things to improve himself. Otherwise you are going to come off like you are a nag.

Good Luck!!!