My boyfriend and me are deeply in love with each other..i mean we cant even imagine spending the rest of our lives with anybody else.however there's a problem..me and him have many differences and it would be hard for us to be together in the future..im from a muslim family and he is hindu..and my parents believe in arranged marriage..they dont even allow me to talk to guys but apparently i have broken that rule..my family is full of drama..and i hate drama..i just want to get away from all this..but my boyfriend says he will not run away with me and get married without parental consent..he is a very nice guy..and he's so different from all the guys i have ever met..however there's another problem we have a huge age gap..he's 8 years older then me..he's not old old..he's still in early 20s..it would be very hard for us to be together in the future..should we break up now and try to forget each other..even though that would be hard..or should we just go with the flow??please help!!!!!!
2007-02-21 05:07:09 · 18 answers · asked by lilcrzygurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN AWAY WITH HIM WHILE YOU CAN OR ELSE YOU WILL BE ARRANGED TO BE MARRIED WITH SOMEONE YOU HATE.
2007-02-21 05:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going with the relationship even if your parents don't approved. He sounds like a good guy and good guys are hard to find. Sooner or later your parents will understand that you guys love each other, it may take longer that what you think, but they will understand. I went through the same thing with my parents, they didn't liked my boyfriend at all. He was six years older than me, he was into racing I wasn't, we were very different. It was very difficult, but we decided to get married. We've been married for 6 years and we loved each other a lot. My parents love him now, they love our children too.
So the best advice that I can give you is not to give up, if you guys love each other the relatioship will last a long time no matter what happens.
Good Luck!
2007-02-21 13:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Beba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a smart guy. Never do anything without the parental consent, because the situation WILL get worse. And seeing that he is still in his early 20's, I'm thinking that you are underage. That is not good, cause your bf can get into deep trouble. All you can do is wait for your parents to bless your relationship. If your feelings for each other are as strong as you say, than it will over come any obstacle that you might come across. Stay strong, and just be patient. No parent in this world can lose to their child. Sooner or later they will see that you really love him, and will accept your relationship with your bf. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-21 13:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by kc321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really want to answer your question because even i was in love with a hindu guy and i m a muslim .i felt that he is the best guy for me . he made me laugh .he was there with me when i cried.my parents too believe in arranged marriage and i hated it.
i felt that without him i cannot survive. but you know what........our relationship broke because he was having relationship with other girls. i felt really hurt but few days later i was alright. i think at this age we cannot really differentiate between infatuation and love. dont try to run away because your reputation is not your own it belongs to your parents .can you be very sure that he wont cheat on you. i dont think this is the right time for you to think about all these things thare is a bright future lying for you. dont get involved in these matters right now. i can say this as i am too experienced on the same matter. your parents have given you life how can you think of cheating them for a 4 or 5 year relationship.dont just think of yourself. do you think this is the time for you to think about these things? there is whole life in front of you. this is the time for you to enjoy now or else you will regret afterwards.LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL. ENJOY IT if you want any help mail me at catrina_beautiful@yahoo.co.in
all the best
2007-02-21 13:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by catrina a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation, because you and him are different religions and one is where you have arranged marriage and that your parents are deadset of you dating this guy, age difference is not a factor unless he is really old, which it seems he is not. The fact is that your parents are going to have you marry someone you don't want to in any case you could talk to them and see if they will compromise, I am sure you love this but maybe if you guys wait it out to see what happens then maybe it will work out for the both of you and if not then you know that it was not meant to be.
2007-02-21 13:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh he's in his early twenties and there's an 8 year difference between you? At that age, it's a huge, possibly illegal gap. Hard to say since you didn't specify his age but if he's 23 that makes you 15 and that is not cool. I think he's trying to take advantage of you. Yes, break it off and try to find someone closer to your own age.
2007-02-21 13:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is eight years older than you and in his early 20s, I'd assume you're around 13-15 years old. You are likely to attached to this guy, and he to you. You're both still young and saying you want to spend the rest of your life together when you're so young likely isn't wise.
In the end, it is your decision whether you stay with this man or not, not your parents... but if he cares so much about your parents consent, perhaps he isn't as "into you" as you are into him?
2007-02-21 13:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
early 20's? consider your options. Jail is a very bad thing. this whole idea seems to chaotic to even mess with. Ergh you would have to wait is he worth waiting for? The Religious aspect will almost impossible to deal with. If you pursue this relationship you must prepare yourself for some pretty extreme hardships nothing about this relationship is going to be easy. however if you do manage to make it through you both will become very strong people. OH and you don't even what to know my opinion on arranged marriage, the idea alone pisses me off.
2007-02-21 13:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes in his early twenties and hes 8 years older than u then what age are YOU? 13.. 14...15? thats 2 much of an age gap!
2007-02-21 13:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..i hate sh it like that..arranged mariages..i dont want anyone arraning anything for me..i dont know how old you are but is there a way you can get out of this..i mean you do your man and you could probably explaint this to your parents and see if they would want the two of you to get married..i dont know..i am 29 years old so i make my own rules and love who i want..good luck
2007-02-21 13:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant to be it will work out and you will find a way to be with each other!
Ps. if his not willing to run away with you to start a life without consent then what does that tell you? you should question ur belief of does he really love you.
when you love somoene you go out of your way to be with them no matter what colour or back ground, love is love.
2007-02-21 13:13:10 · answer #11 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋