My boyfriend is an atheist, I'm an agnostic, and my parents are strong conservative Christians. When I actually tell them about our relationship, I know they're going to be very unhappy. My dad will probably go as far as trying to convince my boyfriend to dump me and I'm worried they'll break off contact with me because apparently somewhere in the Bible it says, don't date non-Christians.
I love my boyfriend and if anyone felt the need to convert him I would seriously kick their butts. I know some friends of mine have told me before I shouldn't be hanging out with him because he's an atheist and because he's turned his back on God, he's going to hell. I don't believe it. It's who he is and he's a wonderful person, he doesn't need to change and I don't want him to. How can I tell my parents and friends about him, and then how can I tell them--nicely--to back off?
2007-02-21 05:06:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My dad and my boyfriend worked at the theater together at one time. My dad knows he's an atheist and respects him and treats him as a friend.
Never has my boyfriend ever attacked anyone's religion. He respects everyone's personal decisions regarding faith and tends to keep to himself about it, not wanting to offend anybody.
2007-02-21 05:20:59 · update #1
Maybe I wasn't clear enough in my second sentence. I'm not a Christian, so any answers regarding my wanting to take my children to church have been ignored. Lol, take time to read the question! <3
2007-02-21 05:30:51 · update #2
How can you be an agnostic and a Christian? Anyway - ignore all the other Bible-thumpers that responded. Just tell your parents and friends that your bf doesn't subscribe to a particular religion and if they want to know more, then ask your bf about his beliefs themselves. Be sure to have your bf be diplomatic about his opinions too. The less information you volunteer the better. If you are older than about 18 - who you date and what their opinions of religion or anything else are no one elses business. Good Luck - oh and IMHO (and to borrow a phrase) God cares more about the content of person's character than the "color' of their religion
2007-02-21 05:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice, I am in a similar situation. Ultra conservative parents on both sides. Fiance is a practicing Catholic. I am basically agnostic.
I think your best bet is to introduce him to your folks mentioning nothing about his religion. After all, why would you? No one ever introduces someone like, "This is Jeff, he's Buddhist." If your parents are like some I've met who are actually awful enough to ask about it, then I would simply have him state that while he has no problem with their chosen form of Christianity and doesn't mind attending for the family every once in a while, it isn't for him.
Under no circumstances should he attack their religion. Just mention that if your family is going to church, he'll be happy to attend out of respect for your parents. After all, its like an hour out of the day. He can fall asleep for all you care, as long as he respects your parents. You also might want to make your position on God clear to your parents as well beforehand, but if you do that, make sure you make it clear that your stance is not a result of your boyfriends views.
Basically, if he is the nice guy you say he is, your parents should like him for who he is. If you get him to honor your family in their events, then they should never even know he is an atheist.
2007-02-21 05:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible doesn't say that you can't date someone of a different religion, you just can't marry them. The Bible doesn't say anything about dating because dating wasn't around when it was written. The Bible does say not to be unequally yolke d(meaning that one person can't carry all the spiritual weight in a relationship). Yes, I do believe that your BF is going to hell (sorry, but according to the Bible it's the truth), but that doesn't mean you can't hang out with him. Explain to your parents that you need to have your own experiences and make your own mistakes and learn from them, and not let them shield you from what they're afraid of.
FYI, I had a friend that was a conservative Christian and her bf was an atheist. It didn't work out, and now she's dating a strong Christian, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ended up getting married.
2007-02-21 05:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are a making a nice time bomb. It will go off when you two have kids. Beleive me, you will suddenly see the need for them to get some spiritual training and want to take them to Church. Your husband will resist. Big problem that won't go away. Try to find older married couples like this and they can tell you their own sad stories. And the real loosers? Your future kids.
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2007-02-21 05:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All of my on the spot relatives are Atheists. I incredibly have an excellent prolonged Catholic relatives a number of who have been Nuns and priests in the previous. maximum of my older uncles and Aunties nevertheless flow to Church yet lots of the relatives under Fifty are lapsed Catholics or Agnostic or Atheists.
2016-10-16 04:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to kick my butt. Because I feel a need to win hiim to Christ. But, if you are this head strong about it then it's your right to spend eternity if a firey hell with him.
2007-02-21 05:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
hmm it seems like your choosing a boy over God thats your pride gone, all i can do is look down on you coz you might aswell be an atheist yourself
2007-02-21 05:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by ...x...sxy ting...x... 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋