My boyfriend (32) started telling me about his issue with one of the band members (19) and his commitment problem to the band this morning. I listened, and gave him my opinion. It seems that I can never speak my mind because either he thinks I am against him, or just don't care. So we ended up arguing about our personal things, and when leaving we were talking at the door. He got upset because I said that I wasn't his mother and I wasn't going to agree with him in everything. He rush me to leave, and I got upset, and I said what are you going to do now get high to forget the problems because you can't handle it? He closed the door on my face (literally) and called me a "stupid *****." Excuse or no excuse for this type of behavior towards the person you love??
2007-02-21 05:05:52 · 25 answers · asked by Elizabeth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sent me a text saying that a true man knows his wrong, and apologizes for his behavior. He didn't want to be rude, but didn't like the fact that I said that he was going to get high while at the door (assuming that the neighbors might hear). This is not the first time, and honestly I am fed up.
2007-02-21 05:41:53 · update #1
Honey, it's called verbal abuse. I lived with it for many years until I finally kicked his sorry butt out the house. It is never acceptable for someone who claims to love you to call you names like that. It took awhile for me to see that, and now I know because no matter how mad my boyfriend gets at me, he never calls me names and never would. Get rid of him, you deserve better!
2007-02-21 07:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by DEENIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lsn if he is the person you love u gotta give him a chance jst in case he was really upset then and it's not his style of dealing with problems all the time coz this kind of guyz who deal with problems that way are nothing but trouble and also he has to come and apologize to you and promise not to do it again coz this kindda barbarian u know(ya gotta act princes on him when tht happens..u know!!)...but if tht wz his life style and he didn't say sry for it u jst get rid of him even if u love him...u'll get over this love tht brings you headaches and stress..and one more thing he sounds like a bossy guy who wants to hear what he wants only and trust me tht's not good at all..he is not the type any girl wants to be around....i really wish you good luck on this...
2007-02-21 05:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No excuse. If he loved and respected you, he'd let you speak his mind. If he was any kind of man, he'd be able to handle the fact that you may have differing opinions other than his. He doesn't love you, it sounds like he loves controlling you. Dump him, because maybe next time he'll slap you around, which would be worse. This violent streak of his is scary.
2007-02-21 05:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi Elizabeth
It sounds like you and he have a volatile relationship.
Some cooling off time should be in order.
Also he shouldn't call you names to make a point.
I think he sounds immature at age (32).
You should just walk and consider it over.
Find a guy that is more mature, and doesnt slam the door in your face. You look like a pretty girl, you should have no problems replacing him
2007-02-21 05:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is not rational behaviour- sounds like he may have some anger issues.There has to be total respect in a relationship. He has to accept the truth- maybe you should approach the issues more delicately- sometimes people can't handle the truth.You are a beautiful woman - you deserve better
2007-02-21 05:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by brian g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doorways close in my face all the time (at present unemployed). besides the incontrovertible fact that, while one door closes yet another one opens -so which you'll be able to desire to maintain searching for different doorways. there is often an open door someplace -nevertheless it might possibly no longer be the place you will anticipate it to be.
2016-09-29 10:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you like being abused, then sure. Where does it go from there? Hitting you? My husband has never called me that ever. There is no reason for a man to say this. Males will, men don't.
2007-02-21 05:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your love is true you should forgive him dear...
Forgiveness plays a great role in a relationship as well as understanding the person...
I believe when he`s not on pressure....you should talk to him calmly
If necessary be humble and apologise....
and i`m sure you two will work for the welfare of your relationship...
That`s True love
2007-02-21 05:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just upset he'll eventually realize that your there to help him and love him. Not babysit him and hold him and tell him everything is gonna be alright. You should appologize to what you said was no better either. I hope you to will work it out.
2007-02-21 05:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was that? You boyfriend uses drugs? Allow me to rephrase your question:
My EX boyfriend called me a "stupid *****" and closed the door on my face?
2007-02-21 05:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋