my 13th b-day party is coming up and i really want to kiss this guy who is sort of my boyfriend. but i don't no were or when i should. and also what do i do if he pulls off, and he thinks i am rushing it. how do i no if he is weirded out?
2007-02-21 05:02:22 · 2 answers · asked by blah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lol...my first kiss was pretty perfect (at midnight, in the rain, on my birthday). But things like rain aren't really things you have any control over...
Well, first of all, make sure you're alone. If this is a birthday party, there's sure to be other guests, so I don't really know how you'd plan to shake them off. But, being interrupted while you're kissing is rather awkward, and it would be especially weird for a first kiss, so make sure you're really by yourselves.
Secondly, don't make the whole getting-away-to-be-alone thing really obvious. A kiss is best when it's anticipated only in the short-term, not the long term. Meaning, don't make it clear to him that you're finding a place to be alone with him so that you can kiss him.
Thirdly, take a leaf out of Jack Sparrow's book and wait for the opportune moment. Find the perfect place in the conversation for a kiss. Usually, it's a slight pause in the conversation, or the conversation itself become about how much the two of you like each other, or even about kissing. You said he's "sort of" your boyfriend, and I'm not 100% sure what that means (does he just really like you? has he asked you out? do you like each other and both know it, but haven't really done anything about it? is he your best friend who you've liked for ages but never said anything?). Whatever the case may be, the conversation surrounding and leading up to that kiss is important.
Finally, is this guy an experienced kisser, or is he a first-timer like you? Do you know? If he is experienced, it might be best to just create the right mood, atmosphere, and conversation, and let him make the first move, if you think that he would. If you know he's too shy, or if he's never kissed anyone before, then you should make the first move. But do it slowly and gently. And I really mean that---"half-kisses" (i.e. pecks) don't have a lot of significance or meaning. Lean in towards him slowly and tilt your head slightly to the right. And once your lips touch his, close your eyes: it's rude to stare. :-D Keep your mouth soft. Don't try any serious tongue or anything like that, but don't feel like you have to kiss him in a boring manner either. But in general, keep it sweet and simple. And there's nothing wrong with kissing him gently and then pulling back after a few moments to look at him. Smile. If you're nervous and/or embarrassed, it's not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, many romantic things are very cute when the other person is embarrassed about them.
Kissing is an art, and not at all an exact science. And one of the wonderful things about the arts are that they are flexible. If you make a mistake, it's not the end of the world. And you're free to adjust to the situation. If he really seems to like kissing you, and the feeling is mutual, go ahead and kiss some more. :-) If it's awkward, or clear that he's uncomfortable, pull away slowly and say, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable." If he doesn't seem to like kissing you at all, it may simply be that he's not attracted to you in a non-platonic fashion (again, I don't really know for sure what the situation with the two of you is). If that's the case, at least you can say that you kissed him with dignity, sweetness, and class. :-)
Good luck! And let us know how it turns out!
2007-02-23 15:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by lyricesden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very rare for a 13yr old boy to refuse a kiss from a girl. If he's willing to sit close and pay attention to your conversation then I would go for it. If he's more into acting crazy and talking to his friends, skip it.
2007-02-23 10:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋